Re: Hubby changing his mind and making me sick
this is a dillemma that every married couple must face, i have heard.
the thing is that you two should not let anyone just make your house their pad.
helping someone or being host to your own blood relations for a couple of weeks or months is fine.
unless parents in laws and parents are living with you for good.
but never compare to let down or feel like you have some patronization that you awarded each other and never get back for something from past, to each other to sour your current time with each other.
tell him that he needs to listen to you and then both of you will make the decision together. he has to have reasons to not let you do what you want to. same for him. he has to listen to your reasons which you will have to share to show him why you dont want a certain something to be done by him.
in any case, you two TOGETHER need to decide and be kind and polite when you speak to each other.
sometimes as a spouse, you should check your spouse's intention by speaking about a hypothetical situation. it will help both of you see what would you do if such or such an event were to happen or you had a decision to make about something.
this pre-knowledge will help you ascertain that both of you easily concur on the decision or not. if you do, then great. if you dont, then you will need to work on it.
also, a year into marriage and such disagreements is something that both of you need to revisit as well.
why is this, now?
sometimes, it is true people would leave their spouses even after 2 or more children and years into their marriages. but that is an unfortunate thing which you dont want to be in such a situation.
dont make him feel rotten unless he is being really unreal and unfair. take one issue at a time and encourage him to solve it with you.
good luck!