has any of you ladies been in a situation where your husband has had an arguement with his mum (whether its abut you or something else) and you have felt you are in the middle of it all.
have you felt like you have to take sides? or confused what to do? obviously you would speak in private to your husband but would you dare speak to your MIL?
its just a thought that came across my mind because my hubby to be has argued with his mum ( i think it it could be about me not sure yet) and if it is about me i dont know how to react.
Re: hubby argues with his mum... where does that leave you?
Unless it's explicitly stated it's about you or not....I'd stay quiet about the argument, pretend that you dont know anything about it. I'm assuming it wasn't right in front of you was it?
Act like you normally do, maybe a little bit mroe reserved than usual. Do you have ANY idea on what the argument was about? (like if they fought about some bad habits of yours--can you make an effort to fix those habits)?
Re: hubby argues with his mum... where does that leave you?
has any of you ladies been in a situation where your husband has had an arguement with his mum (whether its abut you or something else) and you have felt you are in the middle of it all.
have you felt like you have to take sides? or confused what to do? obviously you would speak in private to your husband but what you dare speak to your MIL?
its just a thought that came across my mind because my hubby to be has argues with his mum ( i think it it could be about me not sure yet) and if it is about me i dont know how to react.
share your thoughts or experiences please?
There is one time in my life, where yeah, my hubby did argue with his mom and I wasnt the issue, it was something else. She was scolding him too and I definitely had nothing to do with it. She's his mother and can scold him, on the other hand he is her son, he can argue with her!! Maa Bete ke maamlay main, MAIN kyun aaoon?
There is another time too where it was about me. And it that case, I left the room. I didnt want to be there to get the situation more worse until my hubby didnt call me. I left the room because I knew I was right and as I knew the conclusion of all the issue, I didnt want to make her feel embarressed of how her son is proving her wrong infront of me. But she wanted me to be there and my hubby called me, and finally, he proved her wrong. Still I didnt like it because such things create jealousy between relations.
Re: hubby argues with his mum... where does that leave you?
One more piece of advice. Don't ever get too involved otherwise you will get so deep that it'll be hard to come out. Listen to both sides if you're in that position. Be calm, and do not be afraid to say the right thing. Timings are critical but more critical is your own emotional stability.
Re: hubby argues with his mum... where does that leave you?
One more piece of advice. Don't ever get too involved otherwise you will get so deep that it'll be hard to come out. Listen to both sides if you're in that position. Be calm, and do not be afraid to say the right thing. Timings are critical but more critical is your own emotional stability.
thank you niksik for the 'sisterly' advice. really appreciated. x
hubby argues with his mum... where does that leave you?
I have experienced this a few months to go
To the wedding and my fiance has argued with his mum as she was complaining about me
Working and whose guna cook clean etc (sigh) i stayed out of it, i havent spoke to my mil, even though she left me a 'nice' voicemail for a major interview i went for. I hate confrontation and tbh he argued with his mother it was heated and next day theyre back to normal. Just try not to get too involved, and it can b difficult to stop ur emotions if something bad has been said aboit j but dont speak ill of his mum/dad to him
It only causes issues later x
Re: hubby argues with his mum... where does that leave you?
I would stay out of it but I would be severely annoyed with his parents if it did something to him. Even if they argue about me it wouldn't matter because I won't understand a word in Urdu.
