how wud u handle this?

[PrinceMS]

Re: how wud u handle this?

As far as I see it - the biggest issue is TRUST. If she can come to terms and trust him again then relationship can progress - otherwise no point of even considering alternatives.
Generally physical involvment is bigger problem than emotional. You do have to narrow it down what most likely was the case - one way or another.

[Pinnacle]

Re: how wud u handle this?

awrite i just found out there wasnt anything physical invloved, considering the character of da hubby. (he really is a nice respectable guy from what i know of him)
it seems he was just trying to help this other woman, who was suicidal and her hubby was in jail for raping their own daughter. they meet at work and talk abt their problems. at some point maybe my fren's hubby felt like this woman understood him and his problems too. so i guess she mistook the concern for something more and got emotionally attached. when reality struck , she thought she should destroy this man's home. make sense?

[WitchDr]

Re: how wud u handle this?

Hi Nisa_ak. Yes, it makes sense.

Many people will think that things will go back to normal as the truth has been discovered. I don't think so. When someone, who is not a cheat, is labelled as cheat, there are emotional links which get permanently damaged.

[pk786]

Re: how wud u handle this?

@nisa_ak

oh yes tats wat i told da wife too, he deserved to be punished. it would have been gud if she was emotionally and financially independant, wud have served him right if she cud leave him. but due to her circumstances he will be forgiven, but punished too! hehe…
so wat hurts a guy mostest, besides da kick in tat area of course? wicked grin

pk786: they have 2 kids.

thats it this is were women get stuck:( once you are married you have to think about loads of things such as kids (first priority) family and others u dont get chance to thing about your self:bummer: ne ways i wish this women gud luck and May Allah (swt) finish her problem and give her happy married life:) but she will have to keep an eye on her husband dont just take the apology:)

[Basit]

Re: how wud u handle this?

It's pretty interesting to read the responses and so concrete, solid ... u cheated out you go ... Whether it's a man or a woman who goes through this ... divorce or lessons to be taught would perhaps come on the later part .. cos there has to be a role of intellect to play in our lives rather than concluding to some action so abrupt. Context is very relevant facet of the scenario ...and perhaps considering all the facets would then lead to Actions, which may be divorce or lessons to teach etc :)

[AnGeL_EyEs]

Re: how wud u handle this?

@nisa_ak

awrite i just found out there wasnt anything physical invloved, considering the character of da hubby. (he really is a nice respectable guy from what i know of him) it seems he was just trying to help this other woman, who was suicidal and her hubby was in jail for raping their own daughter. they meet at work and talk abt their problems. at some point maybe my fren's hubby felt like this woman understood him and his problems too. so i guess she mistook the concern for something more and got emotionally attached. when reality struck , she thought she should destroy this man's home. make sense?

and this is how all (ok fine! MOST) affairs begin.....

lol@ fraudz comment

[AnGeL_EyEs]

Re: how wud u handle this?

@Basit

It's pretty interesting to read the responses and so concrete, solid ... u cheated out you go ... Whether it's a man or a woman who goes through this ... divorce or lessons to be taught would perhaps come on the later part .. cos there has to be a role of intellect to play in our lives rather than concluding to some action so abrupt. Context is very relevant facet of the scenario ...and perhaps considering all the facets would then lead to Actions, which may be divorce or lessons to teach etc :)

no one said "u cheat....out u go".....

"u cheat....and u deserve to be punished" what kind of punishment is up to the spouse. You cant just forgive and forget that easily without being taught a lesson or 2.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

Re: how wud u handle this?

@Basit

It's pretty interesting to read the responses and so concrete, solid ... u cheated out you go ... Whether it's a man or a woman who goes through this ... divorce or lessons to be taught would perhaps come on the later part .. cos there has to be a role of intellect to play in our lives rather than concluding to some action so abrupt. Context is very relevant facet of the scenario ...and perhaps considering all the facets would then lead to Actions, which may be divorce or lessons to teach etc :)

no one said "u cheat....out u go".....

more like...."u cheat....and u deserve to be punished" what kind of punishment is up to the spouse. You cant just forgive and forget that easily without being taught a lesson or 2. Otherwise they will do it again!