If a non-muslim friend/colleague politely asks you (due to curiosity) :
Do you have a bf/gf ?! But I have heard that in Islam…
This is the first time I saw a Muslim drinking Alcohol. I have heard that your Prophet Muhammad…
Why don’t you do hijab ? If I am not wrong you mentioned that you are a Muslim ? My knowledge about Islam…
Why you don’t have a beard and wear topi ?
I have heard that Islam is strict about mix gatherings, but here…etc.
Would you justify what you practice or at times tell them that you aren’t that good Muslim. Or you tell them that there are differences of opinions among scholars…or I am not a very good representative of Islam…or others have misunderstood Quran and Hadith…etc.
You can only be as honest as you can be. If they're asking in a polite manner and they're just want to know, I don't see how they are going to judge you for not growing a bead/wearing hijab/mixed gatherings/eating goldfish.
They are asking because they want to know, and usually these type of people are a bit more open-minded. Give them a bit of credibility in understanding that not everyone follows Islam to the letter i spose.
I guess personally I would just say that Islam is a personal journey for each person, and if I'm not being a good muslim myself then it is still my own choice :/
Well i’m very open about my faith… almost all but one of the above questions can’t even be asked about me becuase I allready tick the right boxes.
Dari Mooch… Check.
Topi or Turban worn when required but most times the hair is let loose
Alchohol is a big no no, i’m pretty out of touch without needing any booze or drugs… to alter my mind… or body…
Hijab… well I dress according to the male requirements… and basically you wont find me showing bare knees or no top. Unless you catch me in a boxing match or something.
The gathering thing is pretty obvious by now as well… you wont find meat many gatherings… even when men gather for some sher o shayree I ussually spend the time outside on guard duty…
As for the girlfriend question yes many asked me that in the UK and once even in Islamabad but frankly I’m not that smart to be able to survive in the modern concepts and I’m happy as a Paindo where mum and dad found my match for me… well in actuallity my match was arranged by the whole moholla but thats another story.
As for the girlfriend question yes many asked me that in the UK and once even in Islamabad but frankly I'm not that smart to be able to survive in the modern concepts and I'm happy as a Paindo where mum and dad found my match for me... well in actuallity my match was arranged by the whole moholla but thats another story.
Theres a thread about it probably 2 or three years back when we got married... wont dig it up though.
Long story short I took some serious persuasion before I decided to settle down to fammily life, and it was only becuase many of the other elders kept nagging my parents to sort something out for me... offcourse I was in no rush but due to my reckless nature and the fact that my other brothers had at that time no children of thier own either my uncles and aunts went rishta hunting... and loads of allainces were found but in the end I simply asked my spiritual guide peer o murshid as to wether it was better for me to marry at that time or delay for another time and the consensus from the whole community, the elders, parents, aunts and uncles and finally even the Pir sahab that I should settle down convinced me to do so. Biggest persuasive arguement was the sensible one that one should make arrangements in this life for someone to follow after your footsteps so to speak. It would have been a terrible loss to the fammily if all the young men simply dropped out of life without leaving heirs behind...
You can guess the outcome now all but one of my four brothers is married and we all have kids... :D Now theres a bit of a babay boom Masha-Allah.
