how would you react if

its just shows that you have not earn their trust yet. Just because you are bahu in the family does not mean that they are obligated to share all the secrets with you. Also that fact that they dont mind sharing with other bahus means that you have to earn it.

Re: how would you react if

Angel25....i know how u feel my MIL does the same thing she hides things frm me only bc in not in the khandaan as well....but i eventually find out bc my SIL has a big mouth she can never keep a secret...lol....

Re: how would you react if

if your husband dosnt know then you should not feel bad.

Re: how would you react if

I wouldn't. Less problem for me.

Heck whenever family baatein are going on and I am stuck in that room, I literally zone out and go into my fantasy world. That way if someone asks me later on, I can say I have no idea.

well you are right but its irritating when they are gossiping something and when i enter then they are quiet until i leave...

i am trying my best to earn their trust...but dont know how?

I'll let em stay in their fantasy world where they think they are the smartest of all and focus on more important things than stupid Indian soap type family politics............errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr................

Re: how would you react if

my in laws are like that.... again because im outside of family. typical....
it used to bother me before but thinkin about it u guys are so right....its better to be kept of of the family politucs then to be part of it.

right...its better to stay out of the family politics..

but wat is really annoying..when they are gossiping and i enter the room then they become quiet and then wait until i leave...so this make me too angry...sometimes me and my jeetani are working in the kitchen and then my nand will will come and say something in my jeetani ear then she would laugh

does this happens to u..how do you react?

Just ignore it. If you show them any reaction, they will know that they are getting to you. Just act as if you don't care, and be happy with your hubby. WHy not call you hubby when they are there and just be like " Hey sweetie, how are you doing? Main tumhare bare mein sooch rahi thi..."