You’re Single/divorced/separated/bachelorette for life…basically unattached. You were looking for a job and gave your resume to a guy you met at a gettogether, he was alone but after a couple days of that you get an awesome job in your field of study in an institution of your choice. problem solved right? nope
the guy calls you once or twice about job opportunities in his company. You say you already got a great job and you aren’t looking for a job anymore but thanks for thinking of you…blah blah blah… hope he, his wife, kid are doing good, bye type of closure email. He replies to that email by saying that he would like to meet you again and talk to you again in person. the guy is married with children but keeps calling you on your cellphone and keeps emailing you, it’s kind of an obsessive behavior. i mean for God’s sake you met him in person one time
plus it’s not like he said he wants you to meet his wife…
what would you say so he would get the clue that it’s going beyond that big bold line without hurting his feelings or sounding arrogant/snooty?
I would be straightforward in polite way and say. I mean for me if married woman ask me: I would make an excuse that i can't go coffee with her because i am busy nowadays.
I would be straightforward in polite way and say. I mean for me if married woman ask me: I would make an excuse that i can't go coffee with her because i am busy nowadays.
Invite him to a meal along with his wife and kids.
ok.....why would that get him to stop contact with a single/divorced/separated/bachelorette for life though? this is just a guy that met you(if you were unattached)one time, there was no chance for there to be any brotherly caring(if this is what it is)totally casual, the one mistake you did was give all your contact info(resume). married men don't do things like this, it just seems like strange behavior.
How about you block his email and not respond to his calls? Eventually there will come a time when he just gives up. I know...it's such a novel idea. But it's cuz the woman is SUCH a hottie...and she can't believe (with such vexation...Uff Allah) that she has made such an impact over him ...after but one meeting.
Have your dad receive the next phone call and cuss him out and threaten to report his number to the police. Or make that threat yourself. Or actually carry it out. It's a resolvable issue.
forget it. thanks guys, it just took me some time to realize that it's ok to be the less polite person, there just needs to be a development of a thick skin and that biatchy attitude needs to exist in this tough cold world. brotherly love or not, don't need it
ok.....why would that get him to stop contact with a single/divorced/separated/bachelorette for life though? this is just a guy that met you(if you were unattached)one time, there was no chance for there to be any brotherly caring(if this is what it is)totally casual, the one mistake you did was give all your contact info(resume). married men don't do things like this, it just seems like strange behavior.
errr some of the married men actually come for the look out after they have been married for long and are considerable bored or fed up. So this isnt something strange. Rather, you will find them more in number as compared to bachelors because the bachelor ones have quite many choices already. Dont be fooled by the assumption that married people (obviously that includes both the genders) are saints.
well this is a young guy not married for that long from the looks of things. Anyways, I’ll just say that i have a lot to learn about men and women in this world. honestly it’s hard to read people. How their public personalities are and how their real personalities are.
I was desperate to find an entry level job in the IT field after classes ended before so people probably picked up on that vibe.
if you want to call me naive go ahead, i am not naive it’s just that i always look for the good in people first rather than be doubtful of them at first meetings. i usually expect desis to be these very traditional, thou shall dress modestly, no cleavage gross:sahar02:, happily married people would never have affairs God Forbid!!, flirt, try to take advantage of single people:sahar02: being the angry rude person isn’t really a part of me personality
i shouldn’t have opened a thread on this but it’s been bothering me for a couple weeks now and just thought i would vent about it and it helps to get some viewpoints on what’s going on. i asked the mods to delete the thread
