Re: How to toughen up?
How to toughen up......
1) **Tell yourself that you can't control/change the person....BUT**....you can control how you react to their behavior.
2) Often times people who treat us like dirt are the ones with the problem. Perhaps they suffer from insecurity or jealousy or narcissism. Even psychologists will tell you that the offenders actions are a reflection OF THEIR OWN DEEP- ROOTED ISSUES....it's not about you.
3) You have two options. 1) Either ignore the offender and act as if they have no effect on you.....this will kill em especially if they want a reaction out of you. Treat them like vapor and don't dwell on their comments cuz they're not worth it. OR 2) communicate your concerns
4) Tell yourself, you don't need to waste your life's precious moments on negativity. Direct your energy toward more positive activities.
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5)** An opinion is an opinion is an opinion is an opinion. It's neither right nor wrong. It's neither true nor false. If someone ridicules you.....it's their opinion. It's not necessarily a reflection of you.
6) You know your reality. You know yourself better than others. Focus on your positive qualities and accomplishments.
**7) **Get involved in helping others (volunteer work for example)....it builds self-confidence...so does pursuing your goals.
8) The person judging you is an i*mperfect **person just like all other humans....so don't be hard on yourself. And you teach people how to treat you. If you constantly play the role of the *"victim"** your body language will reflect that.....and some people will take advantage of that and try to hurt you again. So project confidence.