Re: How to tell her
Men have to realize that us women have spent more than half a life time with our families, relatives, friends etc. and while we do mentally prep ourselves that one day we will have to leave them and consider our husband and his family as our family, you can’t just expect someone to detach their hearts from people they spent their childhood, teenage and early adult years with. I am sure she is not a robot.
If you would like to approach this woman, by all means go ahead and remain yourself. If you don’t like meeting people, let her know clearly whats on your mind and give her a chance to decide for herself. You may be allowed to mutually put certain limits but you can’t just force your lifestyle on her. Try and be flexible yourself too. Marriage is not about finding a perfect partner who will fit your ideals and your lifestyle a 100%. Both parties need to make compromises and adjustments. If you can make the effort to socialize etc. just for her sake from time to time, it won’t really hurt anyone.