that i am a socially awkward person (do not want to meet relatives, go somewhere, have fun etc) and her life would be terrible with me? please any advice? she love me the way i am (except “socially awkward” part) but i dont want to ruined her life
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Basically are u looking for a way out.? Why cant u both compromise a bit if you both "love each other'
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why are you looking to get out of this relationship? are you already engaged or just talking?
just tell her? exactly like you did above
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^if she loves you the way you are wouldn’t that include the socially awkward part? 
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Some people are just shy and all you need to do is tell her that.
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why can't you compromise and go out etc?
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Why did you get involved in the first place? And how did you get involved if you are socially awkward?
Just tell her or email her, or just be prepared to face the challenges of being more social after marraige.
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that i am a socially awkward person ( do not want to meet relatives, go somewhere, ** have fun ** etc) and her life would be terrible with me? please any advice? she love me the way i am (except "socially awkward" part) but i dont want to ruined her life
Self confidence bro. You need to be more confident about yourself. You need to believe (and want to) treat this girl right.
Don't tell her her life will suck with you or any of that. Tell her you will treat her better than anyone else.
Although I wouldn't even say that at this stage. Sounds like you're still courting her.
Just be yourself. And turning yourself into someone "better" for someone else is not a bad thing.
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why cant u change for her if u d'nt want to ruin her life :D
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there is nothing wrong withbeing socially awkward, not everyone needs to be a joker, life of the party, or stupidity like that. Just remain yourself, keep urself happy and others will remain happy.
tell her there is a bit of shrapnel in your leg from insert favorite war and that your leg is playing up! Simples
Self confidence bro. You need to be more confident about yourself. You need to believe (and want to) treat this girl right.
Don’t tell her her life will suck with you or any of that. Tell her you will treat her better than anyone else.
Although I wouldn’t even say that at this stage. Sounds like you’re still courting her.
Just be yourself. And turning yourself into someone “better” for someone else is not a bad thing.
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Or thapa maar kai innit!
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Join the club bro!
My gf is a social butterfly, sometimes she insists me to join which I find very hard since I am completely homely.She had her ******* exhibition, she wanted me to be there to meet her whooping amount of friends, crappy fans and extended fam. members....and mainay yeh kah ker jaan chorahi that I missed my flight...hahaha!!
I even find it hard to go to shops.
I have 50 + facebook freinds, for me they are quite alot.
She has 1200 + all lahori edited elite!!
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Thanks all of your replies. Well it's not totally about self confidence, it just happened to may be i noticed there are a lot of self fish people around so ab just main apne kaam se kaam rakhta hun :) home to university, university to office, office to home... thats what i called life :)
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and she is too much attached with her relatives... her waqt chacho puhppo etc ki batain... so it thought may be he would find it difficult to adjust with my life style
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just tell her man in straight forward way
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and you can't adjust to her lifestyle because...?
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Because i don't like that life style where you are meeting with your relatives on daily basis...
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then you shouldn't marry her because she'll start complaining and you'll have a miserable wife.
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Because i don't like that life style where you are meeting with your relatives on daily basis...
Men have to realize that us women have spent more than half a life time with our families, relatives, friends etc. and while we do mentally prep ourselves that one day we will have to leave them and consider our husband and his family as our family, you can't just expect someone to detach their hearts from people they spent their childhood, teenage and early adult years with. I am sure she is not a robot.
If you would like to approach this woman, by all means go ahead and remain yourself. If you don't like meeting people, let her know clearly whats on your mind and give her a chance to decide for herself. You may be allowed to mutually put certain limits but you can't just force your lifestyle on her. Try and be flexible yourself too. Marriage is not about finding a perfect partner who will fit your ideals and your lifestyle a 100%. Both parties need to make compromises and adjustments. If you can make the effort to socialize etc. just for her sake from time to time, it won't really hurt anyone.