how to talk to husband

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Re: how to talk to husband

@LucyMay

It’s worrying that his dream vacation is to be away from his wife and young child. It’s one thing to want to go on a weekend trip with your buddies, but wanting to spend a whole month away is a bit much.

Sorry for the blunt q, but was your husband mentally prepared for marriage and children? It seems like he is just overwhelmed. How is your relationship with your husband? Were you close before your son was born? Did you go on vacations together when it was just the two of you?

What he is asking for is certainly selfish and immature, but I think the heart of the problem is that he is lonely. Women sometimes get so wrapped up in a baby, that they forget their husband needs attention and love too. Not saying you’re doing this, but it’s something to think about.

Don’t get mad at him - it will only make him grow more distant. Try to make time for just the two of you whenever you can. As for the vacation, you can certainly travel with a 2.5 year old. I’m sure the time spent together as a family will be good for your relationship.

it is indeed worrying me that why his enjoyment = no wife and kid
i am not sure if he was ready to marry and have a kid. mine was a love marriage . we knew each other for about 8 years before getting married. but it seems like i don`t know him at all. maybe the 1 year he spent abroad for work is the reason. we did go to a vacation when i was pregnant. i would not say that you are totally wrong in saying he maybe lonely but i do try to give him time. baby is very demanding and sometimes it becomes hard to even talk in the house.