i feel like i need him with me all the time, if he wants to go play cricket with his brother or anyone i get reallly obsessibe and dont want him to go. he wanted to watch the semi final of india pak recently with his cousins and i said no watch wioth me…its not that, its everything, i want him with me allll the time otherwise i get angry…and think he doesnt love me..
help
serious guys…
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He should all of that for you if he really loves you........nothing to be ashamed about feeling attached........don't feel guilty over this.....its perfectly fine.
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Monica you're so annoying.
Sara, get a grip, make some friends, have a life of your own besides your husband. Otherwise it's creepy. The more you run after him, the faster he's going to run away from you.
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get a barbie doll…play with it while he is away … hehe 
Re: how to stop being so needy ( with husband)
i feel like i need him with me all the time, if he wants to go play cricket with his brother or anyone i get reallly obsessibe and dont want him to go. he wanted to watch the semi final of india pak recently with his cousins and i said no watch wioth me....its not that, its everything, i want him with me allll the time otherwise i get angry...and think he doesnt love me..
help
serious guys...
You have a serious disease. :(
Poor guy!
Re: how to stop being so needy ( with husband)
He should all of that for you if he really loves you........nothing to be ashamed about feeling attached........don't feel guilty over this.....its perfectly fine.
But it's not perfectly fine. It can even lead to resentment. People need some space in relationships. The OP needs to think about WHY she feels the need to have him with her at all times. He should be able to enjoy time to himself or with his guy pals......without fearing an attitude from her. The neediness can be a sign of low self-esteem/confidence. I think she first needs to figure out why she's being like that and address that issue......and then she needs to develop other interests in her life. When he's away from her...she can occupy herself with a creative project (sewing, designing, cooking a new recipe), she can go to the gym, or take up a class of some sort, read a book, or socialize with her family and friends.
It becomes more of an issue if her husband is frequently leaving her hanging....or ignoring her and spending more time with other people. But that doesn't seem to be the case here. At the same time, he shouldn't have to ditch his activities and spend every waking second with her.
Sara, you're identity is not confined to being just your "husband's wife." You're more than that, aren't you? Did you not have interests in your life before you married him? So, why should that change after marriage?
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t becomes more of an issue if her husband is frequently leaving her hanging....or ignoring her and spending more time with other people.
But who determines whether husband is leaving her hanging/ignoring her and spending more time with others??
She obviously......he wouldn't ever say or believe that he ignored her/left her......he will always think that he gave enough time............ its her who determines what constitutes ignoring and what not....
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Nomi, ....it is SHE (the OP)....who is admitting that she needs him "all" the time. In fact, she used the word "all" more than once. It is SHE who has also used the word "obsessible" to describe her own behavior.
If she felt that he wasn't being balanced with his time........her post would read differently. It would have a more accusatory feel to it. Rather she's pointing at herself.
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M The more you run after him, the faster he's going to run away from you.
That's right, scientifically proved
find some new hobbies or activities, i don't know, sports, cooking, baking, make a website on something you like (NOT on you husband), a blog, etc
it's not ok to be so needy, he needs some space, and he will appreciate you even more for respecting that.
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It is PERFECTLY ALRIGHT if he wants to spend sometime with his friends/ sports etc. Every one needs space Sara. Try to understand this. If you keep being this way this is going to create even more sourness in your relationship so stop and think. Plus, for your own benefit, dont be so dependent on him or so obsessed about him. Give him some time alone or in another company too so that he needs you as well. If you will be hovering over his head all the time, when would he feel your need and miss you? Excess of everything is bad. The best you do is, find other hobbies too and be moderate in your approach towards relations. Balance is the beauty of life. I hope you get my point here or Im sorry but you are on your one way road to damage.
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Monica you're so annoying.
Sara, get a grip, make some friends, have a life of your own besides your husband. Otherwise it's creepy. The more you run after him, the faster he's going to run away from you.
you are so right there
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God help that poor husband. 
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Sara - you moved from the UK to Pakistan. You opened a thread 2 months later talking about how depressed you felt. I'm sure you felt that your husband was the only one you could rely on and your only friend in these new surroundings. Now you have a child as well.
You need to conquer these feelings. How, I'm not quite sure. But the real issue is not your husband going out, or your husband being numb to your feelings, or your inlaws getting annoyed with you. It's your feeling of still being alien in the country and in this family. Once you address this, your relationship with everyone will naturally improve.
Anyway, perhaps if you talk about your life a little, what you want from it, what you feel is lacking etc, we may be able to help you. Coz no one is going to tell you that your husband is wrong for wanting to spend some time with his friends and no one is going to offer you advice for how to keep him with you all the time. If you're happy and content, he will naturally want to spend more quality time with you and you will not feel bad when he wants his guy time.
Re: how to stop being so needy ( with husband)
ab kiya apny pallo say bandh kar rakhna chahti ho. 
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Is Sara_Pathan basically nadz123 writing with proper spellings and full stops?
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What on earth is obsessible? :-\
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sara_pathan, I think you're just an insecure person by nature...many of us are in different ways, and in your case, it's about your relationship with your husband.
There are 2 reasons for that:
1. Either you are not confident about yourself.
2. or he has done something really bad in the past for you to have lost the confidence in him.
I think it's number 1. You need to reevaluate yourself and see what you are lacking. Noone else can do that for you. One thing I can tell you is that very few men tolerate constantly "whiny" women. The ones who do are usually ummm how shall I put it, ghulams of their joRus. They do like women who make them feel special, but if you don't treat him as a human first, he can never understand how to be a good husband.
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One thing I can tell you is that very few men tolerate constantly "whiny" women. .
This !
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Wouldn’t an inflatable doll be more worth her time?
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Have a baby :)