My wedding is 4 weeks away and I have already lost my sleep. Some how I am unable to relax and calm my nerves down. It’s been 3 straight nights and I haven’t blinked an eye which is taking a toll on my work and over all health. I want to be fresh and relaxed on my wedding day not a zombie (even if I do like the walking dead)
What should I do to relax and how can I just stop my mind for a second, I can literally some time hear lots of gears moving inside me head. And the problem is that I don’t even know why this is happening
I am getting married to an amazing guy who’s putting my wishes ahead of everything. I always wanted a simple(literally) wedding so it’s only going to be a nikkah in masjid with couple of my family members and one of his friends. So I have no stress of the wedding preparation what so ever. I am wearing a simple shalwar kameez with little makeup and mehndi. My immediate family including my parents will not be here but I also have no qualms about that under the circumstances. One of my siblings is responsible for taking pictures and the other for skyping the event to both families and that’s about it.
I was never a traditional girl so I have no regrets about not having the hulla gulla and very big lavish wedding as I have always been against it so it can’t be that.
May be it’s because I had been trying to get married since last year but had some very bad setbacks in the last moment, but I finally have found some one who is way much better then I had ever wished for so why the anxiety? I don’t know, any Freud’s in the house? All the married ones did you experienced the same issue?
We are flying off the next day on our honey moon and I don’t want to be dead tired and exhausted during the most memorable days of my life. Any suggestions please??
im also feeling same can't sleep dont know why ....i have 1 month and some days but still feel to cry but i hide my tears i dont want to upset my family
You're getting married...its one of the biggest events of your life. If you didn't feel stressed, it'd be a bit off in my book. It happens and its supposed to happen. The best thing is to try to do things you like...go out with some friends, talk about your anxiety with a best friend, go watch a movie, go workout, book yourself a massage or facial somewhere, etc.
Whether you realise it, or not, your life will be changing and that upcoming change is taking its toll on your sleep pattern and therefore on your overall health.
I can relate to how you’re feeling, although I tend to get my sleep. I seem to be crying quite often and I just can’t stand those rukhsati scenes which are in all those darned dramas at the moment, YET I can’t envisage myself crying at my own rukhsati.
My advice would be:
try to spend as much time as you can with those close to you; and
try to do some exercise during the day because that will tire you out so you can sleep better at night, iA.
Also, be regular with namaz and read Surah’s from the Quran which should keep you relaxed.
Good luck wtih everything. May Allah bless your marriage and make the wedding stress-free. Ameen.
Know that it'll all be ok. And if you can't calm down don't worry, you'll eventually collapse and sleep. It may be on your honeymoon but you'll sleep.
Things to do to help calm down:
Run or Walk - Ever heard of runner's high? yes, it's awesome. Walking also is very good for your mental health. The pressure on your feet is good for your mind, body, and spirit. I recommend an hour a day walk.
Exercise - Go to the gym or just in your house, do your favorite exercise so that you break out a sweat. You'll get your endorphines flowing. It'll make you feel better.
Daily Bath in Epsom Salt - Magnesium is a natural muscle relaxant. It's in epsom salt (available in your local drug store) and most effeciently absorbed by skin.
Eat balance meals - When you're highly stressed, the body uses more fuel and nutrients therefore you need to give it all the proper nutritents your body needs. Yes, eat your veggies, go low on processed food.
Take a Multi - if you don't take a Multi, go for a good multi made from Whole Foods rather than made in a lab. I recommend Garden of Life products.
If it's not too much of an expense, go for a massage once or twice a week for the next 4 weeks.
Try Reflexology, Acupressure, and Acupuncture.
Drink plenty of water!
Do things that you truly enjoy. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the drudgery of life that we forget to have fun.
If everything above combined doesn't work, go to your primary care doc and get a muscle relaxant. I don't recomment this option as it is habit forming.
PS. I was dead tired on my honeymoon, but it just perfect because we did everything at a relaxed pace. Got plenty of sunshine, ocean breeze & waves, water sports, ate well, and slept a lot. For me that's all I wanted.
Peony's recommendations are great. I'm getting married in 7 weeks, I don't feel particularly stressed at the moment but I will start to go for massages / facials and to the hammam though, just to be entirely relaxed and not look tired when the big day is here ! also I spend a lot of time with my 2 nephews at home, kids are a great distraction and they can make you forget eveything else !
