It doesn?t matter, if he understands now but he will eventually, when he has his own kids. And no don?t think that this is going to ruin things. Not at all. That?s a morbid and misplaced fear. On the other hand, what if it, your fears ARE right. How will you live with it for rest of your life? How will your child
live with it?
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@LP it?s not difficult. I learned this from some people in family and some friends. They will say whatever they would have to say, firmly, unapologetically and then after that act just the same as they were moments earlier.
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- Your brother has had no history of misbehavior
- He treats his 3 year old niece as the laadli that she is
- You do not think he is up to any mischief
- You were moles Ted as a 11 year old
I am very sorry this happened to you as a 11 year old. Based on 1-3, it appears you are viewing adult males through the prism of your experience. And there is a danger this would manifest itself in situations such as this, where a perfectly innocent (and adorable) relationship between uncle and niece is being questioned.
I hope this comment from me does does not open old wounds and provides perspective.
Tell him straight up that he comes off as a creep and that you suspect he’s pedo, that should keep him away. Also don’t leave your daughter alone with him.
Yeh i have planed to talk to him
U r right. I literally see every male through prism of my experience.
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Tell him straight up that he comes off as a creep and that you suspect he’s pedo, that should keep him away. Also don’t leave your daughter alone with him.
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I never leave my daughter alone. But there r moments when i m busy in kktchen or taking bath.
I had seen brother in laws assumed to be rapists and pedos…this is first time i am seeing someone suspecting a person from same family.
HSN05,
Not every molestor will be someone who exessively kisses a child. A molestor can even be someone who does not plant any kisses and simply watches their prey from afar.
As a parent, you do have the right to intervene and demand that this stop. However, this is a very delicate matter given the relations involved and you do not want to risk straining them.
You can attempt approaching the matter by way of bugs and germs. Tell your brother that it will be hard for you to continue your studies if your daughter gets sick and so you do not want her to be kissed so much as he comes into contact with so many people during the day. Maybe tell your bro that the last time that your daughter got sick, it was a pretty bad episode thar you do not wish to repeat, and doctor had sternly warned about about the same thing. See if using the doctor helps. 
I suspect this man to be a pedo
If i am not mistaken, a young lady here had made a thread about her father. In an oppressed society we don’t get to learn the full extent of some social evils.
Let’s not entertain such suspicions when we haven’t witnessed anything, nor do we know the man. Nor does he have a record of abuse. It’s innocent until proven guilty.
We do not know the mind of every advice-seeker. Some could be more impressionable than others. More easily swayed by mere suggestion. So, it’s best not to put ideas or doubts in their mind that could very well be false. We wouldn’t want to be taken to account for the consequences if they act upon our unsubstantiated insinuations.
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I chose my best soft words and conveyed my point of view to my brother and mother . Apparently they did not show anger or misunderstood me. Hopefully he will act upon my advice too.
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