ok so 2day all of a sudden my mum in law came 2 my mum n ask 4 forgiveness 4 whtever she did especially on r wedding as i mentioned before in wedding forum on r wedding she didnt allowed r wedding shoot no valima nothing i had no issue i m happy wth my huby so these small issues can be ignored but y all of sudden after 3 years she is asking 2 forgive her i know its good 2 admit ur mistake n i really appreciate it but my mum got confused n dont know how to react so she was like its ok y r u saying this… i m equally confuse n actually surprized by this she actually gave me tough time but y this forgiveness???
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Why she didn't allow a wedding shoot? crazy woman!
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Err.....kisi ka maafi maangna tumhay itna ajeeb kyun lag raha hai? Sometimes people learn their mistakes early...and sometimes it takes them longer. The important thing is that at least ghalati ka ehsaas to hua hai...even if it's after a long time. It's said that if we commit sins against another person...we have to seek forgiveness from that person in order for Allah to forgive us.
It takes himmat/courage for someone to admit their mistakes to you and seek forgiveness.....it's even more difficult to do it after a long time period has passed, I think. Some people have sooooo much pride that they can never manage to apologize...let alone even fathom that they may be wrong. If you've already moved on from what she did and bear no grudge toward her....then let her know that you've forgiven her. It's not such a huge situation that you need to over-think it.
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Why is it so difficult to forget and forgive something which happened three years ago ?
Why there is a need to look for hidden meanings and hidden agenda ?
If there is a hidden meaning and hidden agenda it will come to light if your mom forgives and forgets otherwise it can be a new beginning of a lifetime friendship with a desperate woman who wants to build bridges and start a fresh.
Go for it and get rewarded by Allah(SWT) who loves to forgive.
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Why is it so difficult to forget and forgive something which happened three years ago ? Why there is a need to look for hidden meanings and hidden agenda ? If there is a hidden meaning and hidden agenda it will come to light if your mom forgives and forgets otherwise it can be a new beginning of a lifetime friendship with a desperate woman who wants to build bridges and start a fresh. Go for it and get rewarded by Allah(SWT) who loves to forgive.
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100% agree..
If she’s willing to admit her mistake, and you had no issue anyway, then what’s the problem?
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Just forgive her tell her it's long forgotten. This is a good sign. Mostly ppl due to their sky high egos in such relationships never want to confess or admit that they were wrong or are sorry for it.
I think it's a big positive step. Grab the opportunities to start fresh in a good way :)
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yeah i m of course happy n really appreciate this thing but for me these r not tht much big issue tht she should apologize ofcourse she didnt said anything 2 me about this so i want 2 remain out of it of course my mum said no need for apologizing as these r small issues :)
but i m surprized bc she is a v different women v strict i was not expecting this 4m her bc i remember when once i said her tht if u dont like anything about me plz let me know i m ur daughter n she was like no u r not my daughter u r my DIL n u can never b my daughter so this attitude is surprizing 4 me
y this sudden change v dont talk much its like once in a month so i was just wondering should i call her n ask her how is she bc mum told she was looking bit worried
should i call her n ask if everything ok or not?
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pata nhi neither i asked nor she gave any explanation :)
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should i call her n ask if everything ok or not?
Yes.
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Why is it so difficult to forget and forgive something which happened three years ago ? Why there is a need to look for hidden meanings and hidden agenda ? If there is a hidden meaning and hidden agenda it will come to light if your mom forgives and forgets otherwise it can be a new beginning of a lifetime friendship with a desperate woman who wants to build bridges and start a fresh. Go for it and get rewarded by Allah(SWT) who loves to forgive.
Bilkul. it is very difficult to ask for forgiveness especially after time has passed. The longer it is, the more difficult it becomes. I think your mom should graciously accept it and make your MIL feel good
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Bilkul. it is very difficult to ask for forgiveness especially after time has passed. The longer it is, the more difficult it becomes. I think your mom should graciously accept it and make your MIL feel good
of course my mum made her feel good but my mum is more worried tht she was upset hope so everything is fine at her end :)
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of course my mum made her feel good but my mum is more worried tht she was upset hope so everything is fine at her end :)
Inshallah. Yes it seemed to me that if your MIL isnt the sort of person who you can expect this sorta behaviour from that perhaps something significantly different has occurred. However I do feel that you cannot just come out and ask her. I would advise increasing contact with her just a little bit more and something that you can easily maintain just to boost such positive behaviour and also gain sawab alongside:)
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i was thinking that i should ask my mum 2 ask her since she is more close 2 her than me :)
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^it would be a good gesture from your side if you call her up and talk to her. It would make her feel good.
We never realise but older people crave for little attention. And being away from them, just a phone call once in a while is enough to cheer them up. Shouldnt hurt to try!
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ok thnkx 4 replying every1 i l call her inshahallah :)
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ok so 2day all of a sudden my mum in law came 2 my mum n ask 4 forgiveness 4 whtever she did especially on r wedding as i mentioned before in wedding forum on r wedding she didnt allowed r wedding shoot no valima nothing i had no issue i m happy wth my huby so these small issues can be ignored but y all of sudden after 3 years she is asking 2 forgive her i know its good 2 admit ur mistake n i really appreciate it but my mum got confused n dont know how to react so she was like its ok y r u saying this........ i m equally confuse n actually surprized by this she actually gave me tough time but y this forgiveness???????
is she planning to go hajj?
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Sounds like it.
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is she planning to go hajj?
lolz she has already done haj n she goes 4 umrah every year in ramzan once i also accompanied her :)
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^it would be a good gesture from your side if you call her up and talk to her. It would make her feel good.
We never realise but older people crave for little attention. And being away from them, just a phone call once in a while is enough to cheer them up. Shouldnt hurt to try!
I totally agree. Your mom can do her bit, but it wouldnt hurt u at all inshallah to make a little bit more of an effort than you were making before (just a bit more, it needs to be maintained longterm afterall)