how to minimize chatting with fiance

[multani86]

Re: how to minimize chatting with fiance

So this is what’s wrong with my cousin… hmmmm… it makes sense!!!

[keeni]

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@Paheli00

I’m not sure why you’re not able to figure this out on your own b/c the solution seems pretty simple.

Why? Why do you need to be on the computer every single evening? Go read a book. Spend time with family. Go out with friends. Go work out. Take some type of evening classes related to a hobby. Is it really that difficult to find an activity to keep you busy that doesn’t require a computer? And even IF you get on the computer…why are you logging onto chats every-single-time? I manage to get on the internet and I’m rarely on any IMs or chatting devices…so I know this is definitely possible.

yeah, you see I am a very simple person lol , i go to uni 8 am to 1 (i dont have classes i go to library to do my thesis) and then come home, help Mum or Dad with whatever they doing, then pick up my sis1 at 3 pm and sis2 at 5pm , go for walk in the park with family and at 6 i have nothing to do, hehhe book reading time is at 9pm.
looking for part time job but cant find any , did volunteering for 6 months in a primary school , might start that again

[keeni]

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Who cares ... Enjoy your time now, it ain't coming back .

:D

[keeni]

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@TLK

Give me your skype ID. Lets you and me chat instead. That will teach a lesson to your chat hungry fiance

hahahhaha i dont give him all the blame as i am also chatting with him so yeah kind of my fault too

but yeah thanks for the offer

[keeni]

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What's wrong about chatting about future plans ?? Don't you want to know what his values and expectations are ?

Or do you think by revealing too many of your ideas the rishta might break ?

Better to show your true self after marriage when he can't leave you. In fact, id wait till after he has kids. Get him in a tight spot so he can't wiggle.

hahah ur advice is good , get him in a tight spot , nice

[keeni]

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I think u should minimize chatting with ur fiancé by minimizing chatting with ur fiancé. How's that sound :)

hahha that sound good

[keeni]

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I have taken redvelvet's advice and talked to him and he said he understands and will help me to minimize the chatting heheh God he is so nice

Thanks everyone for your kind comments although some of them just cracked me up :)

[ekumunng]

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I know I want to marry him but I don’t want to lose my women ego, my respect in my own eyes and also when I offer pray I feel very guilty that I am losing front of my nafs. Thanks

Just replace "him" with "you" in the above line and send it to him when he comes online now. Tell him straight up about the topics you are not comfortable to discuss. I'm sure he will understand it.

[Shak]

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Hi guys,

I want to reduce chatting with my fiancé, we are getting married in six months, we are cousins and have been friends for many years, see the problem is I am bit conservative, I don’t want to talk about my future after the wedding, I don’t want to discuss how we will live and all that stuff while he loves it. Thanks

Does anyone think we'd had a thread of ''he doesn't talk to me about the future and changes the topic its like he's not sincere or doesn't think long term. Does that mean he's not happy?' had the poor guy been the opposite.

j/k :p