How would you react/respond/handle if you felt that his parents were being too interfering in your life or the stress from their house was getting to you significantly (domino effect), without offending the SO ? While you are doing the best you can to keep them happy (you don’t live with him or his family yet), you feel you are being taken for granted and not getting anything in return.
Re: How to make your SO realise his parents are now affecting your life with him
Talk to him in a calm manner and explain things without getting heated up about the whole thing, and hopefully he'll see where you're coming from.
Re: How to make your SO realise his parents are now affecting your life with him
It always gets heated up, I feel tempted to remind him of the times I've been there for his parents and when I needed them they were absent/didn't even bother to call but that's just not me. I just wish the situation was calmer in his home so his parents can relax, he can relax and I can relax.
I guess it will only get worse when I go there, and I won't know how to respond/react when there are arguments (my house is relatively peaceful, alhumdolillah)- I get worried too easily so I guess I will have to be prepared.
p.s. marriage is scary!
Re: How to make your SO realise his parents are now affecting your life with him
how were you there for his parents and why did they need you …if u haven’t even moved in yet??? 
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chain reaction. 
Re: How to make your SO realise his parents are now affecting your life with him
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how were you there for his parents and why did they need you .........if u haven't even moved in yet???
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Arrey.. I go visit, go out of my way to do special things for their anniversary/birthdays/surprises, call them frequently, keep in touch with them and keep them updated with everything never gave them a reason to complain from my part at least I tried my best, but I get stressed when I find out there have been tiffs which can easily be resolved without being blown out of proportion, then come the sarcastic remarks towards the SO (your wife is going to do this ___ - when she isn't and they should know it well !!!!!).