Does that sound so difficult? It isn’t, believe me. When you enter college you find friends of the same age group. Everyone out there must be looking out for friends. Unless you are a very reserved and shy kind of person it is very easy to be friends with people of your class and college. Making friends should not be a problem at all. Still, it requires effort and a willingness to extend yourself at times. You need to open up and be welcoming.
First and foremost don’t wait for people to come and introduce themselves to you. Start with introducing yourself. Take the initiative and cut the ice. Once you have introduced yourself it will be easy to do the rest. Don’t be snobbish and arrogant.
Attend parties, sports events and special gatherings where people socialize. Remain open to new cultures, ideas and values. Invite people to join you for a bite to eat and a drink. This way you can make friends fast.
Help out your classmates or people who are in trouble. Be co-operative and bubbly. Don’t be tense or irritated and even if you are don’t show that on your face otherwise no one will like to be with you. Throw a party occasionally and attend all parties if possible.
Be loquacious but don’t talk nonsense, sociable, chatty, talkative, friendly, outgoing, helpful, amiable, congenial, neighbourly, approachable, easygoing and smart. All this will help you get the best friends you want at college.
I goto a college, yeah i have friends in all my classes. We hang out in spares together, study together and go out for lunch together. But thats all, i am not there to socialize, attending parties, or join events or waste my time. After all i am paying alot of money to learn and recieve my goverment certifications and diploma. I Dont socialize with the people from my college after school. Just on msn, we talk for few minutes and discuss about homework or class projects. I just dont have the time to socialize, i think i have better things to do at home, such as spending time with my family and doing my own homework then to socialize with friends who will lead you nowhere. But this is just my story....
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*Originally posted by Furqan: *
I goto a college, yeah i have friends in all my classes. We hang out in spares together, study together and go out for lunch together. But thats all, i am not there to socialize, attending parties, or join events or waste my time. After all i am paying alot of money to learn and recieve my goverment certifications and diploma. I Dont socialize with the people from my college after school. Just on msn, we talk for few minutes and discuss about homework or class projects. I just dont have the time to socialize, i think i have better things to do at home, such as spending time with my family and doing my own homework then to socialize with friends who will lead you nowhere. But this is just my story....
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The Game Responds:
*You remind me of me, except that I study even during spares. Excuse me for being a freakin' nerd. People, That Is All.*
*You remind me of me, except that I study even during spares. Excuse me for being a freakin' nerd. People, That Is All.*
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^right right. 1984? barely a freshie. wait till te job rush starts and ppl start getting jobs based on contacts. then we'll see how the Gamed will respond.
^right right. 1984? barely a freshie. wait till te job rush starts and ppl start getting jobs based on contacts. then we'll see how the Gamed will respond.
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The Game Responds:
*You don't have to hang out and do awara gardi to get contacts; that was the point my friend. Oh well, we will see. People, That Is All.*
*You don't have to hang out and do awara gardi to get contacts;
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umm. yes u do. u need to spend time with ppl, which u call awara gardi, for enough emotional bonding to take place that they like to do favors for u tomorrow. sirf intro kara kay, thora parhai mai help kar kai kaam nahi bunta.
useful contacts r those, u keep in constant contact with.
u have a lot of time on hand ....4 whole yrs to go... to improve the moves of the game, otherwise ppl will just move on.
as for this:
Oh well, we will see.
well life 'daikhnay' hi ki toa nahi hoti. dikhanay kai liyay hoti hai.
*Miss or Mr Ghulail, should I rather look to improve my grades or hang out with a bunch of idiots? Should I rather do work in advance or do it at the last minute just to please a bunch of morons? The choice is pretty simple. When I know that it will be a waste of time, I won't do it. Hanging out mostly is a complete waste of time. As far as connections are concerned, may I ask what you are doing currently? And how much did you have to rely on "connections"? People, That Is All.*
^ nobody is saying that u compromise yr studies to hang out with ppl. hanging out in spares with ppl doesnt sound like compromising studies to me?
and as for my job prospects and stuff that i wont discuss, but I do know that once u start nearing graduation, a lot of good students already land jobs without looking for them in the recruitment guide of the univ. any idea how that happens?
well ppl go for internships, get offers that dont suit them to pass around to other students, which they do. and guess who they like to pass it to?
making friends has little to do with compromisng studies. its abt liking ppl , so in turn they like u just enuff. even if you are the best at yr studies, with an enviable GPA ans tuff, u shud try to keep a minimal cushion of friends who'll help you out with work tomorrow.
seriously jobs in the market do not go to who is the best, but about having the right info at the right time. the latter has got nothing to do with ability, it tends to float around amogst ppl as a whole.