Re: how to KEEP ur GF HAPPY
STP.
when you take the time to decide about one, what do you essentially do is automatically allow for the chance of other option.
a good caring man or woman is not that mentality.
and getting to know will not work if the intention is to keep looking and pretend one is not looking. men do that all the time and that is accepted and encouraged actually by their 'friends and family' who have their own motives to realize by doing so.
in essence a man is helpless in that case, unless he knows about and absolutely values his own honesty.
Dushwari
^ I understand your perspective here. Let me clarify the view. You see, I said that one should not get too much involved with the opposite gender "Physically" and "Emotionally" before marriage but set the limits, because if a person goes deep into it, than it is difficult for him to come out of it and those wounds might have a severe impact on his/her life which might not even heal after the person marries someone else.
I know cases of people who after geting married, unintentionally start comparing their wives with all the previous girls with whom they were involved before, and such thoughts might lead to disasters. human being is too weak to always overcome his prohibited desires, so it is not good to play with fire through experimentations everywhere. It is man's nature that he can never be satisfied with one unless he closes the doors leading to all the other options, BUT also he should take his time before making that ONE decision.
The more you are careful the more you are safe. Here in Turkey it is usual for any class fellow to kiss on the checks of the person of opposite gender, but there are also few people with whom if a person of opposite gender wants to shake hand, they say " Sorry,* it is amanat of my spouse*" (reserved for my spouse) Only she has the right to touch it