I am moderately religious. I have my days of extremity (more like normality) when I pray 5 times and feel good. Other days I slack, or get distracted, or just can’t keep up. My husband, however, has a nice heart, and he understands Islam and follows the teachings of Islam, but he’s not very steadfast in his prayers. I have to do a lot of talking to convince him that he should just go and pray. Our relationship is, Alhamdulillah, very healthy and it’s not like that he argues, or gets mad at me. But I just don’t like how I have to lecture him, or really shove him towards prayer. I feel like he’s not praying from his heart anyways.
I want to be able to influence my husband to pray 5 times a day and ON TIME, and vice versa. Ideally, if we can both strenghten our will to never miss a prayer in a way that he drags me to it if I’m slacking, or I drag him to it, if he’s slacking.
What can I do to encourage this? I want us both to be steadfast in our prayers before we start a family. Please help. thanks!
Re: How to influence your spouse to be more steadfast in prayer?
Peace bhenjee
If you can get your husband to agree something with you then it may work.
Challenge each other in a friendly way to be steadfast and compete with each other. Alternatively get him to lead Jammat in prayer with you so that you can both pray with more organisation and he will have the burden to pray with full intention also ... praying in Jammat is higher in reward and it encourages both people to pray.
Set five alarms in the house or azan clock and ensure all things have reminders of prayer such as posters and desktop, etc
Also never go to bed before praying all prayers so if you have missed some then pray kazda this will make praying late very tiresome because if you missed say three prayers then you have to pray all of them before going to bed. Then at least when you get to bed you are back on track for the following Fajr.
Re: How to influence your spouse to be more steadfast in prayer?
sounds like my story.
My hubby knows more about Islam than I do but when it comes to prayers, its hard to get him to pray and i find myself lecturing him. Which i am sure he find highly annoying
The azaan idea is great, but seeing ur wife praying infront of u (and ur kids attempting) should be an alarm in itself.
neways, im just praying with each namaz, that Inshallah one day he will just do it.. im not going to hold this against him, cus he's a lovely human being Mashallah..
Good advice Psyah.
Khair !