I will be visiting my aunt who will be inshaAllah having baby. I just want to know what I should be doing to take care of her and the baby. Some tips please.
What can I cook for her? We will be preparing food and freezing it. How should I pamper her? Take care of the baby? Volunteer to do?
Just a little concerned as I do not want to come about as unhelpful!!! 
How to help someone who has just given birth
-Make panjeeri for her..
-Put oil in frying pan, add zeera then add thix mixture to hot milk with almonds..this is for her to drink
-massage her
-if normal delivery then for stitches, one should use warm water with a bit of salt in it...thats what the doc told me..so make sure warm water is available for her
-warm compresses/towels for engorgement
-help her with breastfeeding..make sure she is comfortable while she does it..
-wash baby's clothes and help around the house
Thats all i can think of right now
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thank u for ur response. it was helpful :)
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Is this her first baby?
Everyone has made very good suggestions and it's very sweet of you to go in prepared.
A few additional things:
1. Sometimes you just need someone to watch/hold the baby so you can use the bathroom or take a shower or get something to eat/drink. It'll be good for you to be there.
2. Periodically bring a snack/drink to her. Fresh fruit, ice cream, yogurt, broth, crackers and cheese, whatever she will like to eat.
3. Don't pester with too many questions/advice. Try to follow her cues.
How to help someone who has just given birth
Make sure you listen to her..sometimes moms just need a shoulder to cry on, someone to talk to, complain and vent..it'll release her stress.. Be her cheerleader.. Tell her she is being a good mom:)
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give her space..
as much as we all like to be helpful in running after the mother and helping with the bathing and cooking and things, its nice to give a little bit of breathing space to the mother and the child.
Organise things for her, but let her be in contol of how she wants to do things.
With nappy changes, feeding, anything...
If she's changing bubba, take the things out and leave them for her to manage on her own... Its hard enough trying to dress a tiny baby, but even harder when someone is standing around and watching, makes things even more fiddly.
In terms of feeding. Leave a pillow or two for her, but then leave.. let her and bubba be on their own. Maybe turn the telly on or something for her (or laptop, depending on where she is).
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if she isn't totally comfortable with you. try to not be there when she is breast feeding..leave the baby and the mom to themselves. it will make it so much easier and smoother to have someone like that around. I have a 6 week old, my MIL came and stayed with us for 2 weeks and as much as i love her..i was in tears on more then one occasion when I couldn't feed the baby peacefully in the comfort of my own home. You can do small tasks like keep the kitchen going..run and empty the dishwasher, take garbage out, help her with laundry and watch the baby when she wants to go the bathroom, it will make you love her. my mom was here for the first 2 weeks and i love her for taking over the kitchen, she even froze alot of food for us for the coming weeks...love her to pieces for doing that..made my life so easy. also, you can offer to burp and take care of the baby after she feeds him/her so that she can get some rest.
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and totally agree with sadzz.