Re: How to help myself meet the right guy.
I can empathize with your concerns since I used to think the same way, that is, until I met my Pakistani fiance, who turned out to be more cultured, decent and sophisticated than any American desi guy I know. Sometimes I think we individuals who have been raised in the west tend to become ethnocentric towards our own people (despite having some affinity with the ancestral culture) and start perceiving them through the eurocentric western gaze as the “other” since most of our identity has been subsumed by the “gora” culture we have grown up in. However, since we are constrained by the bounds of culture/religion we tend to look at others like us who have grown up in the west as more worthy partners because we feel that only they can relate to the uneasy balance we have to maintain between our (conservative) eastern traditions and (liberal) western outlook.
Anyway, the point of my post is that don’t deliberately restrict your options by letting your prejudices get in the way. If a rishta does come from Pakistan give it an equal and unbiased opportunity; there’s no harm in doing so since you can always reject the proposal if you feel you guys don’t get along AFTER you have given that person proper consideration. Who knows, you might very well be pleasantly surprised one of these days.
In any case, I’ll repeat what I said earlier, I am certain you will find the right person at the right time. At this stage, you should concentrate on finishing up medical school and then searching for a residency program. Establish yourself as an independent, working professional first and I am certain excellent prospects will follow suit.