How to help myself meet the right guy.

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Re: How to help myself meet the right guy.

@Eronaille

You are absolutely right! If you have the wherewithal and the opportunity to find someone of your own accord that would be great! However, if there is a dearth of potential candidates within your social sphere, it would be futile to drive yourself into a tizzy about trying to find someone – the phrase needle in a haystack comes to mind.

Can I ask how your previous two rishtas came about? Was it via your parents social network, family liaison etc. You mentioned that you are only interested in men who have “grown up” in western countries because of your concerns about job placement. I definitely understand the latter concern, but may I ask why you have restricted your choice to only men who have specifically been raised in a western nation? I mean, what about Pakistani individuals who are working or studying abroad. Are you wary of marrying a well educated Pakistani national?

The first rishta came through a family friend, second rishta was recommended to parents by a rishta person. I went to pakistan in december and there were a couple of great guys there too…well educated, nice families and good jobs and the guys had lived in the UK for 3-4 years but i just didnt get on with them that well. I have spent my whole life in the UK and im very very british and grew up in a very white area. I like my traditions for example i love shalwar kameez and the food and some aspects of the culture and im very into family. But I dont know i just didnt click with those guys…they didnt get me and i didnt get them. Im not closed off to it but i dont see myself marrying someone who hasnt been raised in the UK or a western country.

At my uni there are lots of pakistani nationals studying here but i dont get on with them as much as i got on with british pakistanis. I dont want to offend anyone but its just what i have found.