so your father’s gotten better right? he’s not ill anymore
anxiety is all in the mind, i also get panic attacks and major anxiety in certain situation that are intimidating.
everybody suffers from it in varying degrees.
since your mother is getting more and more upset and depressed b/c of what people say and she seems to take it so personally, i would constantly make her feel good about herself, whenever you see her give a genuine compliment.
if you have a pakistani therapist, ask her for professional advice on what you should do and hopefully it’s not real, clinical depression that your mother suffers which can be dangerous and i would go to the therapist first before trying anything on my own to make her feel better.