How to help a friend see the light and move onto from a painful past?

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Re: How to help a friend see the light and move onto from a painful past?

@Sehrysh

A man who is capable of hating his own child, truly a maasoom in any failed relationship isn’t worth one tear. Your friend is foolish to want to be with a man capable of abandoning his child and having hate in his heart for that child.

This is the fate that could be her own and her childrens. Enough said.

Sehrysh, you’re right. The first marriage was a college affair turned into love and later arranged by parents. So that was a couple years of knowing each other well before a commitment happened. The engagement itself lasted over a year. Dhoom dhaam se shaadi and then the problems started. The marriage lasted less than a year and the baby came after the divorce papers were filed by the wife.
The guy or his family have refused to see the baby girl because they hate the ex wife and firmly believe she will raise the baby to be just like herself, so what is the point of associating with such people.

It sounds so cold and harsh. And now that he is claiming to be in love with my friend, who is to say that he won’t turn on her in future and leave her without much thought or remorse! It all sounds so scary and I’m genuinely very concerned about her. I hope Allah gives her guidance in this matter.