How to get your husband to..

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Ladies, how do you get your husband to eat after you’ve irritated him? Mine doesn’t eat whenever there’s something going on between us [which is rare].
It really bothers me.

I’m out of country right now, which makes it even more difficult for me to make him do something he doesn’t want to.

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Tell him the basics that every parents tell its child: you don't take your anger out on food and you don't turn your back on* rizq.* If he carries a mind of an adult, he'll get the hidden wisdom.

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How long doesnt he eat for? I tend to do that not my husband. He can eat anytime.

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You deal with his like you would a child. If he does not eat, he will when he is hungry. Let him be.

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Cashmere, the only problem I worry about after any fights between us is, both of us stop talking for like an hour or so. It’s irritating but it’s good sometimes too, as it gives time to each of us to calm down, think about what has happened, who was at mistake and cool down the anger. The good part is, after an hour or so, we forget it and we act normal :smiley: though I don’t like to be quite for an hour especially when its a fight, I just tolerate it because I am well aware of the good end results.

Your husband reacts differently BUT believe me, if it was my husband reacting the same (not eating), I wouldn’t force him to eat. Literally, food is something, one can’t get away from, for long hours… :hehe: Bhook to lagti hi hay, aakhir kaar pait pooja kerni hi parti hay. I think you shouldn’t be worrying, stop pushing him like we need to push a child to eat (if you do), give him some break and time when he is in anger. The more you will force him to eat, not only he will reject it, but it can lead to more unnecessary arguments. Seriously.

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Cashmere, if he isn't eating at home, he might be eating out. Don't worry.

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You have continued to irritate him while you are out of the country?

You missy are one awesome role model for all the Pakistani wives.

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But.. But :bummer: I didn’t mean to..

And why don’t you suggest some input instead of writing a thesis on Pakistani wives :naraz:

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:/ Kinda sounds like you're talking about a child or a pet and not your husband.

Leave him be; he'll eat when he feels like it. He may even be eating out and the dark circles could be due to lack of sleep. Or if u must talk to him, watch your tone, words, etc.

Also....you seem high maintenance. He tries his best to make things normal, but you don't accept his efforts due to your moodiness. He sees his efforts aren't working, so he tries the alternative strategy of giving you space....but you don't accept that either and you become even more pissed off. It's a lose-lose situation for him. I have a feeling that his stubbornness in not eating is a result of your own persistent inflexibility. It's almost like he's saying you give me a hard time....so I'm gonna do the same and make you work for it too. So, it's become a cycle and you'll have to address this with him. And you're gonna have to fix your attitude and become more flexible/easygoing and less of a diva....if you want him to move on faster and without drama.

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Solution is simple my friend. He wants some tlc from you. Not eating is just his way of showing anger, it's not that he has lost his appetite. So don't worry about his appetite, but worry about what is bothering him

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I didn’t mean to make it sound like I’m owning or trying to control him. Alhamdulillah I’ve always did and still do love him to bits. Though sometimes I have to force him to eat, etc as I would to a child, thereby giving him most of my attention. This is the second time an issue like this arose in our one-year-old-marriage and you’re right it has a lot to do with my reactions. I need to fix up :bummer:

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tell him to grow up and learn to settle issues by talking and not giving up food. how old is your husband? :p

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If I had any affinity for immature men, I would've married someone else. Afterall, we have plenty of those here on GS and also at Subway - mopping floors.

Don't worry about his age. :p

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3-4 days w/o eating and he is a mature man?

Ok nice story Adil butt. Haha you got us there..

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Not eating for days? Never heard of it before from anyone. Let the fight go. Start being normal and give him space, don't pester him.

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Let the poor guy enjoy his freedom... by eating out! He deserves some tasty food once in a while :D

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Lucky man, can stop eating whenever he wishes to.

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Seriously? seriously?

I mean....seriously?

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It’s good to see you care for your husband :biggthumb:

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Please refer yourself to the bold text in post #22 :D