How To Get Over Someone

Lifestyle Relationships
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how to get over someone is really bad time for anyone who has been in love or has lost a loved one. my case is that i was in a relationship from a long time and things just did not seem to work out. i was not the one to break all ties if i was the one i would have been over this fast. but it is hard for me to be focusing on anything, its hard for me to eat its hard for me to not contact that person. i cant have my full sleep i feel restless all day long. i need serious help before i lose my mind. please help

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Is this regarding the situation you posted earlier...with the cousin in Pakistan?

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no this is my own problem im going through

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by **pole-vaulting ***over him/her! :D*

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Focus on other things. You can drown yourself in ice cream or other comfort food. Helps a lot but is unhealthy.
Go shopping... but it's not good for your wallet.
Or you could exercise regularly- which is healthier.

Think of something that you need to improve about yourself that can be changed and sincerely work on it. You'll not only become a better person but it'll take your mind off things.

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Sadly most of the people wont understand what you are going through since they lack common experience. I am in no position to 'advise' either since I havent recovered even 5% and its been 5 months. Nothing really interests me neither have sobbing periods subsided. But I recently bought a guitar, and I have started singing lessons. It is a good way to kill time for now.

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Yes…because going through heartbreak/rejection/failed relationships is not common at all…bahut kum logon k saath hota hai. :rolleyes:

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Is it?

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^LOL, never mind. :hehe: :hinna: :rolleyes:

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Yeah zaz, breakups hit the dumpee harder than they hit the dumper, it also depends on your level of emotional investment. But to be honest with you the best way to get over your ex is to get closure, moving on and finding a new guy/girl for yourself. You are still the guy/girl she/he once loved. Being single has it's perks, it is the best time for you to get out there and do stuff you weren't able to do while your ex was around. Once your exs realize you are doing find without them, they come crawling back to you. zaz, sometimes you have to let go of the ones you love. Oh and as cliched as it might sound, time is indeed the best healer.

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For whom the bell tolls..

This is just being down.. you cant be in their shoes and you dont have to be casutic.

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Someone said to Allah that.... "I hate life"
Allah replied.... "Who asked you to love life..?? Just love me and life will be beautiful..."

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stop contacting that person, recognize that the relationship wasn't meant to be so i wish you could take all the stuff that belonged to your ex and donate it to a charity so you don't have to see it anymore, it's a constant reminder of somebody that treated you horribly and isn't in your life anymore

reading your last sentence, are you really having a hard time functioning at work? couldn't you take some time off from work just to re-energize or regroup.

You need to be around family and friends at this time or loved ones since you're so emotionally down right now

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I agree with the poster who said that no-one will understand because they are not the one going through with it. When i broke up with my ex, it was very tough. I still miss her sometimes...but i do know that i am slowly moving on with my life.

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^^^although jalpari is right, we might not know exactly what the OP's going through, I don't think it would hurt for zazzzy to tell us about how he/she is feeling about it though, writing out what you're feeling is a form of therapy.

guy or girl, let out all those emotions and dont' fight it. The final goal is to move on and stay strong, easier said than done but it has to happen. so you can show your ex that you're strong and you can survive without her/him

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what you speak of Nisha is true warm words. Insha'allah time is best healer. It takes time..but i bet you..if you meet someone who is better than you seem to forget little quicker. I am recently talking to a girl whom i personally think is much better as a person and a human being. Perhaps better than me. I wish she is reading is now ;) just wanna let her know..that she is the coolest person ever!

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hang out with friends. a hug from them makes a difference.
find good hobbies, stay strong.Pray when you are feeling too heavy.

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i try to keep myself busyT (working full time, working out at the gym A LOT) to the point where I'm exhausted when I come home and too tired to think about things. It helps. Time heals all wounds, believe it or not.

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Well ur probably going to hell anyway for being in a relationship b4 marriage. So I say go an find someone else and have great sex!

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^ only Allah knows who will go to hell and who won't. I personally don't think she will go to hell if her niyaat was right from the beginning.
Anyway, if he mislead you, promised you marriage and left you, then he's a terrible person, and you should not miss him at all! Cant you see how lucky you are you got away?
If he broke no promises, then you should have been prepared that this might happen, and you will get over it in time. It depends under what circumstances you broke up.
Prayer gives inner peace. Seriously, there is nothing like it. And one who prays from the heart, Allah surely grants his wishes:-)
Also, try to focus on his faults. Convince your self that he wasn't that great a person to begin with. Thats your defence mechanism, since the relationship is over and he's not coming back anyway, why hurt yourself by crying about how fabulous he was? brainwash your self into believing he was bad for you. I helped someone very close to me go through something very tragic, and all these things worked. Heres hoping they work for you as well.
Allah will make everything better, InshAllah.