How to get over an emotional/stressful situation?

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Re: How to get over an emotional/stressful situation?

@rabia3983

This past year has been really horrible for me and my family; although things are much better I can’t seem to get over the situation. I lost my dad 20 years ago and moved to the US to join my mom’s side of the family. I have considered my mamu (only one mamu,) to be a fatherly figure, and due to some family issues he and his family have decided to disown my mom and her children. No matter what I do, i can’t get over this. It’s been almost a year and I still think about it every day. My mom is too stubborn to say anything, and the situation cannot be resolved without them talking.

My brothers seem to be ok with it. I know my mom isn’t fine, but due to her stubbornness, will not talk about it. I just can’t seem to get over it. I have a very busy life, but even than I every passing moment the thought of my uncle disowning us hurts me. Every family get together (1-2 times a month,) the situation is highlighted by my uncles absence…I have actually considered not attending or having dawats…

Please give me ideas about how to get over this…

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sometimes, when you have tried all means possible to reconcile with someone who you hold dear, and it doesn’t work.. it’s just better to move on or give it a lot of time before trying again. your mamu is pretty stubborn, and nothing you will say anymore will have an effect on him.. just leave him alone for a while. he’ll realise eventually that you’re family, and there’s no point in petty year long grudges. if he doesn’t, then it’s his loss. i can also understand that you probably don’t want your mum to get worked up over this, so i don’t think there is any point in mentioning it to her for a while.. besides you said she is also very stubborn. not entirely sure what happened or the details but you seem like a good enough person for trying to mend things. keep that in mind and try to move on/give it time.