How to get over a rishta rejection?

[Bobby1]

Re: How to get over a rishta rejection?

@fitoor

The “he has ‘had to’ say no due to our family class differences (mine are supposedly too high for his) and that I am more educated than him, currently studying my masters whereas he has no degree (not at all an issue for me), and he felt he couldn’t meet my demands in the future” might or might not be the actual, true reasons but think about it, they had a month to think about it.

If you were in his place and you felt you had a true connection with a girl(the way you’re describing your feelings after talking with him for an hour) and this girl was all those things(more educated, higher class, etc), I don’t think any of that would’ve mattered if you as a guy really was feeling that “first love, wow I just have to have this girl” feeling. It’s like a mystery that you just have to solve or reading a book that is so engrossing that you just have to keep reading until you get to that final page and find out what happens. Isn’t that how that unreachable, unobtainable woman is, a guy just has to have her.

Don’t run after this guy. Yes one hour isn’t much time to get to know someone but unfortunately, he talked to you and saw your picture(i’m assuming photos were exchanged) and he thought you weren’t a match. If you so desperately want to still go after him, ask your parents to contact his parents to inquire yet again if a second phone conversation or personal meeting could be arranged. That’s just to satisfy that real need to find out the truth. I feel like it would be causing even more pain for you because the answer might not change even after a couple months since they seemed pretty firm.

Think of it this way why are the Mercedes-Benz and the Infinitis valued and people crave to own a car of that class that most people don’t have? That’s exactly the reason because most people can’t have such a high class car and because it is so expensive, it isn’t some cheap car that anybody can buy. I wish we women would act and value ourselves like we’re a Mercedes or an Infiniti and see that if a guy really sees the value in us and how incredible we are, he’s the one that would run after us and not the other way around. You have big ambitions, finishing your masters, pursue that and also work on other self improvement ideas so you’re keeping yourself busy and making yourself even more fabulous. Do whatever brings your self esteem up at this time, facials, pedicures, working out to get to that goal…whatever comes to your mind.

We’ve all been through something like this with a guy that we thought was just so perfect for us and we thought he felt the same way but then we get disappointed for expecting something that ended up not happening. It’s the same story of months go wasted. He has your phone number but he still hasn’t called. If he hasn’t called, he doesn’t want to call(i’m sorry that’s harsh but it just might be the reality check that you need). If a guy wants a girl and is interested, he’ll make the call, he’ll move mountains to make that girl his future wife.

I have seen many rusted Kias act like they are Lamborghinis. Lack of intellect is like having a seized engine.