how to get out of it?

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@Khumar

Look, you’re like younger than my younger brother, so I’m going to talk to you right now like I would with a younger sibling.

You need to stop talking to him. Period. End it. Once and for all. Get rid of him from your FB/Skype/Yahoo/MSN/Whatsapp etc etc etc. All of it. Get rid of it. No need to explain to him that you’re doing that. You don’t owe him that, and you don’t owe him anything.

He is going to make you feel guilty. He’s hoping by making you feel guilty enough he’ll get you back. Or he’s just being a horrible person and wants to make you feel horrible too. Either way, you can’t get into that trap. Like I said before, you don’t owe him ANYTHING.

You haven’t met him. So you can’t allow yourself that attachment you’re feeling right now, or in the future. It’s not recommended.

You have WORLDS of difference between you two. Forget you, people much much older than you have trouble convincing their parents when the issue of a Pakistani and Indian getting married arises, and they’re more likely even more settled in their lives and are not hormonal teenagers. So you have NO chance in hell of getting anywhere in this relationship.

You’ve got a lot in your life to look forward to. Get out of your house. Mingle with people. Go shopping. Watch movies. Study. Build a future before you think of involving someone else in your future.

Breakups are hard. So it will take time for you to get over it. But be practical and do not allow yourself to be at the mercy of your emotions.

And again lastly, for the love of all that is holy, **stop talking to him. **What do you think you’re going to achieve by continuing to talk to him? Some salvation? You’ll get over your breakup easily? Your parents would be convinced? No, no and no. None of that would work. So just stop it.

Thank you so so much ! Yeah i just told him two days back that its all done and that i don’t wanna disturb my life anymore…the kind of girl he always wished for was not like me.He was also compromising with me he was not taking it serious how i react to his orders..To be honest i always love being independent and that is why i m just focusing on studies..Meeting new ppl in my academy but not online…using phone v less so i keep myself away from this mental torture.If he was a nice guy the conditions were not ok. And i know it was going to be v hard but i used to feel i’ll hurt him.But i know when i’ll stop talking to him he 'll be fine ..I just pray now and hope for the best in life..i will go smoothly with life and take everything easy.. trying to stay happy and yeah at first it was hard to get out of it but now i m much much better..