A few days back i posted something about a guy in my life but everybody told me to leave him because we both belong to different countries and i m young for all this..Now when i started ignoring him i feel so bad and cry all day..started hating people around me.I no more talk to so many people as i used to..I just keep thinking about it..and yeah i know this discion of mine is not wrong and that i really need to leave him because we never met.. But we were too close..he messaged me today if i m going to talk to him anymore or not? How to get over it? How to stay happy again? It is becoming a sad and gloomy part of my life..i really need ppl to tell me if my decision is right or wrong? Because i was always bad at making decisions in my life :(..
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Oh ho.. decisions* 
Firstly if you started ignoring him especially on the basis of what people think is a huge indicator of how immature you are to consider marriage anyway.
Secondly, why didn’t you talk to him about it? See if you can work things out? And please, the world doesn’t deserve your resentment because you decided to ignore a boy 
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daant warry miss tapparvair , jast give some taime.. tension mat uthao. sab theek ho jaye ga, espeshally whan new larka come on scene riding on da motorcylcles and taking of dark chashmas
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the one time i make a serious comment and you troll? 
But seriously, dem chashmay :jano:
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alright I have nt read the background of it all but I assume it is an online relationship? if it is, i think you re better off now than him dumping you later on. you are young and your feelings are precious. preserve them for the right man.
Acha ! And plz not in mood of jokes 
serious jawaab de saktay hain to zaroor den
Sorry about the spelling mIstake :). I told him to think wisely..and my sister told me that it is not going to work in future so i thought to take things seriously as it is affecting my studies and making me mad 
When i msg him,he says everything was fake and bla bla .. I m loyal and honest..I care for him and i don’t want to hurt him.. 
he is indian and yeah the visa issue itself is a big issue..But if i see love,i would definately choose him but if i think from my brain things are going to be very difficult and i m v young..as his family say, he needs to get married now.But i can’t,because my family will not listen to me at this time..
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How to stay happy again = Stop thinking about him. Stop obsessing about him. Stop thinking you’re in love. Stop talking to him. Stop blaming yourself.
I m trying to get out of it
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Ah right. I was replying according to what you wrote in this thread. Didnt know about visa issues etc. I mean still, did you just start ignoring him in hopes it would go away? Cuz thats probably not the best thing to do.
If youre intent on moving on immerse yourself in different activities. Keep yourself busy and focus on yourself.
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So is there a reason that the previous thread on this subject was posted in life1 and this one is posted in AV? 
This is that guy in India whom you haven’t met in person, right? You were obviously attached to him and it’s going to take time to fill that void in your life. Give it time and in the meantime, make a conscious effort to give time to the people around you. Slowly with time you will stop missing talking to him and his msg’s won’t impact you in the same way. Focus on your studies and do something fun on the side. Be aware of your attitude towards other people; if you can sense that you have been harsh on your family and friends, then you already know what you need to work on. There is a lot more to life than one person whom you haven’t even met. People tend to be different online and in person. Don’t be overly trusting.
Thank you i do contrary to all this 
but i know he ll be ok ..i can’t hurt anyone..that is why i feel guilty but i know everything will be alright.. I keep praying that everything gets better and yeah m not in love i know about it..It will take time but i’ll be ok in sha Allah
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Exactly. You’ll be okay. He’ll be okay as well. No one ever died of heartbreak. You need to focus on your studies if you want your dream about medicine to be more than a dream.
Thats y i joined gs.. I m new to gup shup..i m hopefull that Allah will make life easy and He is a BEST PLANNER!! i thought to leave my life on Him…And yeah i try studying and concentrating on it
<<Exactly. You’ll be okay. He’ll be okay as well. No one ever died of heartbreak. You need to focus on your studies if you want your dream about medicine to be more than a dream.>>
Yeah! remember me in prayers and yeah i want to make my mum dad proud! so i try working harder now because more than my dreams i want to fulfill their dreams and that is to see me as a doc ! In sha Allah
<<This is that guy in India whom you haven’t met in person, right? You were obviously attached to him and it’s going to take time to fill that void in your life. Give it time and in the meantime, make a conscious effort to give time to the people around you. Slowly with time you will stop missing talking to him and his msg’s won’t impact you in the same way. Focus on your studies and do something fun on the side. Be aware of your attitude towards other people; if you can sense that you have been harsh on your family and friends, then you already know what you need to work on. There is a lot more to life than one person whom you haven’t even met. People tend to be different online and in person. Don’t be overly trusting >>
Yeah i know time will make everything ok and i try keeping myself away from phone even..He calls me everyday..message me. He thinks i was not loyal.i was playing with his heart but how can i tell him? I was not wrong and even today i made this decision after thinking so much ..
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Look, you’re like younger than my younger brother, so I’m going to talk to you right now like I would with a younger sibling.
You need to stop talking to him. Period. End it. Once and for all. Get rid of him from your FB/Skype/Yahoo/MSN/Whatsapp etc etc etc. All of it. Get rid of it. No need to explain to him that you’re doing that. You don’t owe him that, and you don’t owe him anything.
He is going to make you feel guilty. He’s hoping by making you feel guilty enough he’ll get you back. Or he’s just being a horrible person and wants to make you feel horrible too. Either way, you can’t get into that trap. Like I said before, you don’t owe him ANYTHING.
You haven’t met him. So you can’t allow yourself that attachment you’re feeling right now, or in the future. It’s not recommended.
You have WORLDS of difference between you two. Forget you, people much much older than you have trouble convincing their parents when the issue of a Pakistani and Indian getting married arises, and they’re more likely even more settled in their lives and are not hormonal teenagers. So you have NO chance in hell of getting anywhere in this relationship.
You’ve got a lot in your life to look forward to. Get out of your house. Mingle with people. Go shopping. Watch movies. Study. Build a future before you think of involving someone else in your future.
Breakups are hard. So it will take time for you to get over it. But be practical and do not allow yourself to be at the mercy of your emotions.
And again lastly, for the love of all that is holy, **stop talking to him. **What do you think you’re going to achieve by continuing to talk to him? Some salvation? You’ll get over your breakup easily? Your parents would be convinced? No, no and no. None of that would work. So just stop it.
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Who cares where she posts her thread, really, it’s all the same shizzle.
Tpervaiz, good decision. You’ll be fine in a few weeks. And what khumar said.
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you need to meet more male people in real life so that you arent so dazzled by an online guy. or if mediocrity is what entices you, you could meet some of GS’ own stash of wonderful pakistani men from cafe who might not have visa issues.
or you could just study hard and become like CEO of a company in dubai, hire your online friend as chairman, get married at the burj and fly away in the rolls expertly chauffered by BSB’s fiance.
Thank you so so much ! Yeah i just told him two days back that its all done and that i don’t wanna disturb my life anymore…the kind of girl he always wished for was not like me.He was also compromising with me he was not taking it serious how i react to his orders..To be honest i always love being independent and that is why i m just focusing on studies..Meeting new ppl in my academy but not online…using phone v less so i keep myself away from this mental torture.If he was a nice guy the conditions were not ok. And i know it was going to be v hard but i used to feel i’ll hurt him.But i know when i’ll stop talking to him he 'll be fine ..I just pray now and hope for the best in life..i will go smoothly with life and take everything easy.. trying to stay happy and yeah at first it was hard to get out of it but now i m much much better..