how to gain value in anotheres eyes

[Reha]

Re: how to gain value in anotheres eyes

@redvelvet

You admitted that you cry a lot and that you get mad at everything. Frequently being in a negative state is not only frustrating for you…you have to understand that it drains other people of energy as well. And not many people enjoy hearing complaints about their parents/siblings all the time. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t discuss concerns with your husband…but maybe try to let some things slide as opposed to turning every thing into a battle. His mom is not going to change her ways. Even if your husband was to talk to his mother…it’s not going to bring about a change in her personality. That said…let some things go. “You don’t know how to do anything right”…you’ll probably hear her say that again in the future…even if you did buy her a new suit and managed to iron more carefully. Just get her the suit…and eventually it’ll blow over. She’ll get over it. Getting your husband to confront his mom about every single issue…will not help things blow over…rather it’ll just prolong the issues. She’ll get hurt at his confrontation…he’ll feel awkward…then he’ll get upset at you…and the problem will just get bigger. Pick and choose your battles. Generally speaking, people are more attracted toward those who are usually positive.

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Stop talking to him about his parents and family. What can he do? Either learn to deal with them or start ignoring them.