I'm a parent myself, I have two kids. But that doesn't give me the right to force them into marriage with someone they either don't like or aren't sure about.
I've told my children I'm not perfect. I make mistakes too. Sometimes I make a mistake even now, while I'm raising them, then I tell them about my mistake and that I was wrong and we talk about it. I often ask my children if there is something they want to tell me, about my way of raising them, or certain decisions or perhaps a punishment. We talk things out a lot. We try to understand each other.
As a parent, you are in charge of a human, a life. A child isn't just something you can do with whatever you want. A child is a human being, you make a wrong choice as a parent for you child, then you risk destroying either your childs character, or life or whatever. I think a lot about many decisions I take for my children and I let them decide for themselves very often what they want in life. That's important. To let children understand your decisions and try to understand what your children are thinking, feeling. What they need.
I couldn't live with myself if I would marry either my son or my daughter to someone they wouldn't like. I can't do that. If I would do something like that to my children, I would understand their anger toward me. I"m a parent, sure Allah has given me as a parent my status, but that doesn't allow me to misuse my power over my children! That's what bothers me. My parents used a lot of emotional blackmail to control me, especially with my mothers illness, one shouldn't do that. I would never misuse my position, my so called power over my children. Just because I'm their mother, it doesn't mean that I should force them to do something that I think is right.
I learn something from my children too, like they learn things from me or their teachers. We can all learn something from children too sometimes. We don't necessarily make the right decisions.
If I would still, Allah forbid, do something to destroy my childrens life, at least I would admit towards my children and other people as well what I did. I wouldn't lie and say it was only my childrens fault. I would understand and admit my fault.
In my life, I've often even admitted faults I didn't do! Sometimes to irritate, anger people sometimes to avoid faults. It wasn't alway right to do what I did in those cases. But anyway, what I'm trying to say is, it's not that difficult to admit you did something wrong. Even if you are a parent.
And as far as I know, we aren't supposed to listen to everything our parents say, when they something negative, you don't have to do it. Not everything they say is Islamic or the right thing to do.