its weird, you would give your right arm to be able to conceive, you see people around you and know that not everyone is blessed. we should be grateful.
for some reason that maternal feeling that should be alive and kicking, is not apparent. feel odd. like detached from whats happening. nothing maternal at all. the way people die over babies clothes once thyey know they are epxecting, or coo over babies, or just have a blesssed satisfied feeling, is not apparent in my yet. 5 months back i wouldve killed myself to be able to conceive and be happy. and now i am, full 5 months, mashallah, i dont feel as elated or happy or maternal as i should, or as im lead to believe we should feel.
Just give it sometime. Its not that you carry a child in your belly all the times. Its a big change and will take time for the 'right' feelings to kick in.
It's funny. For several weeks even after I gave birth, I felt like I was caring for a baby, but I did not think of her as "my daughter." It's only recently that that feeling has started, probably around the same time she started showing a very purposeful preference for me. She was always soothed by my presence, but now it's become a very conscious and deliberate preference. Bizarre!
5 months pregnant.. mashallah... now you are going towards your 'down' time... i mean from now onwards most of the times you wont feel as happy or excited (or maternal) as u thought u would be because these months are pretty hard (pain, stretch weight all kind of that stuff) ... i guess its normal
I don't know if you have started feeling 'kicks' / 'movements' of your baby. It's amazing. At that time you really feel that there is another life inside you. Just imagine 2 hearts are beating in your body one your own and one is that of your baby. Feelings will come. Motherhood is amazing it takes you into a new world. Your perception & feelings towards many things will change.
Don't worry it will come...
I just feel so cooey and maternal, since the day I found out I was preggers - Hubby is the same. I don't know, I never thought I'd feel this way..I keep referring to baby as my baby, hubby is like no 'ours'!
Nadz, for you I think it's probably the fact that maybe it's been a bit soon since the transition of single to married to pregnant to mum and it's a shock factor whearas I have been married for 3 years and then got preggers so you get a bit more time planning and getting used to the idea. Don't worry just give yourself time inshAllah you will deffo feel those feelings once you have your baby in your arms. Good luck !
I guess its ok...
When I was shopping for the baby I knew I was always being cautious...never too excited or enthusiastic...sounds silly now...
It never hit me even when I heard my baby's first cry..maybe it was because I was too groggy at that time...
It will come to you...once you hold the baby in your arms...
Its a priceless feeling...:)
nadz, congrats. These are things that nobody prepares you for. People all tell you how wonderful parenthood is, but nobody mentions the internal conflict, the potential depression, frustration, the "What have I done" feeling.
Trust me, sooner or later, the time will come when you will love your baby more than life itself, it WILL happen inshallah, it may just not happen immediately.
I know that for my wife, it didn't happen until our daughter was about 3 months, she had post partum depression and even talked to a counselor, but at 3 months, everything changed completely, now we can't even stop talking about her after she goes to bed.