Salaam to all!! (Sometime please respond to my salaam)
My friend (#1) and (#2) have been best friend since their childhood. #1 is 30 and #2 is 24. Friend #1 has always been kind and considered #2 as her sister. Friend #1 has done so much for #2 that no matter how much she is thanksful to #1, its just can’t be enough (Even if she has to wash her friends paaoon (feet) with water and drink it. Its just not enough, but last night was just a dhamaka.
By the grace of Allah, my friend #1 just had a baby boy and its one of the best and precious time for her and her hubby. However, last night at the gathering, I saw friend (#2) who constantly stared and glued her eyes on my friend #1 husband. I felt a bit awkward , left the room and went outside to get some fresh air.
After half an hour, #2 came outside and asked me “Laraib, please help me. I think I have feelings for him, he is too hot, and cute. Would you please tell me how I can keep myself comfortable when am around those two” I was like WHAT? What do you mean feel comfortable? You mean you are feeling guilty to have feelings for your friends hubby and don’t want to act dumb around them, so he or she wont get a feeling that there is something fishy going on here? Or do you want to get with him? I have been very suspicious about her friend #1. I always knew there is something wrong with girl either mentally or psychologicaly.
I mean like seriously, would someone be kind of enough to explain this to me?
There is a limit to each and everything. You can’t just be hitting on someone just like “SNAP”. Its one of the precious time for both the wifey and hubby, and this lady keep surrounding them.
Is this common?
Does it happen like this quiet oftenly that if you have spent so much time with your friend that one day she is blessed with a baby, you try to take over her belonging just becuase your friend has been very nice to you and that she will not mind. Or is it just “Hochiyan”
Re: How to feel comfortable around the friend who just had a baby? (need advices for
lol.... I think she was just checkin him out only... She doesn't want anything serious because he is a married man... Married man can be hot!!! lol.hahahaha...
Re: How to feel comfortable around the friend who just had a baby? (need advices for
wow you had a busy night last night, 1st you almost missed isha and was forced to go on a date with your cousin and then you attended some baby party.
Whats this about drinking peoples foot water????
Re: How to feel comfortable around the friend who just had a baby? (need advices for
wow you had a busy night last night, 1st you almost missed isha and was forced to go on a date with your cousin and then you attended some baby party. Whats this about drinking peoples foot water????
Hey ssarab well yes i did had a very busy last night :)
No i did not missed Isha. His and my mom wanted me to go to masjid and observe isha there as I love going to masjid's at night and looking at the masjid beuatiful view. It wasn't a date sarab. Its one of my close cousin that just wanted me to pray and enjoy at teh same time. There is this saying that oftenly hear from pakistani mothers when they get angry with their children " Tum janati nahi ho maine tume kesay pala posa hai. Tum shukar guzar nahie ho. Agar tum mera paoon do do ke peoo to kam nahie hain" i hope u understand
Re: How to feel comfortable around the friend who just had a baby? (need advices for
I'm confused..............I understand that at times background info is needed but I don't think that the fact that friend 1 just had a baby and that friend 2 is forever in debt to friend 1 is at all relevant to this situation or problem
Either way, its obvious that friend 2 is out of line and should keep her 'feelings' in check if she wants to keep her relationship with friend 2
Also, the whole feet-water-drinking statement was a bit much IMO
Re: How to feel comfortable around the friend who just had a baby? (need advices for
Walaikum as Salam jee…
Where in the post have you mentioned that she is “hitting” on the guy? If she hasn’t hit on him…if you haven’t seen her hit on him…then you can’t jump to that conclusion. Even if she has hung out with friend #1 and her husband…doesn’t necessarily mean that she has flirted with or hit on him. Maybe her “discomfort” around him entails nervousness, butterflies, etc…and she’s seeking your advice as to how to calm her self down and be normal around him. It doesn’t have to mean that the non-normal behavior included flirting, etc.
Being blessed with a baby has nothing to do with this situation. You could develop a crush on someone even if there is no child involved.
“Try to take over your friend’s belongings just because she has been nice to you”…WTH? Does that make sense to you, Arabjaani? Again, take a look at your orignial post. Nowhere have you mentioned that friend #2 has “taken over” friend #1’s husband. Where’d you come up with the idea that she has developed feeling for the guy just because friend 1 has been reaaaaaalllly nice to her. She could have simply developed a crush…and it may not have anything at all to do with friend 1 being nice or not nice to her. If she asked you for advice on how to correct the problem…then that means she has an awareness of what is right and what is wrong. If she does try to hit on the guy…then it may partly be due to her perception that she can get away with it becasue Friend 1 does anything and everything for her and therefore she hasn’t learned to respect boundaries maybe becasue they weren’t established from the get-go. But that doesn’t seem to be the case here because if she’s asking you how to fix the problem…then that implies she doesn’t want to get involved in such a sticky situation. So naive some of the ideas and conclusions. If you’re trolling, it’s one thing. If it really is a serious thread…even sadder.
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