How to disappear completely

Help please. This is by someone very close to me, I wasn’t supposed to read it. I don’t know how to help her.

all i want is for someone to sit down with me and tell
me im normal- that im pretty enough, smart enough,
thin enough, that they love me enough. one person
tells me to eat, and dosent understand when i cant-
how can i? i look in the mirror and see someone huge,
someone fat. im working so hard to be someone better,
but its like no matter how hard i try, i cant be her.
i see someone else in my mind, and someone else in the
mirror… the third looks at
pictures of skinny girls and tells me if she had the
guts, she would eat tissue paper all day to be skinny
too. how can i ask you to help me out when u too are
digging your own grave?

maybe im
making too big a deal out of this, yet frustration is
building up inside of me- i want to burst, yet i have
to hold together, cause in my carefully scheduled,
pathetic life, i give myself five minutes to vent out
my frustration before its time to sleep, time to pray,
time to work out, time to study, and time to study,
and time to study all over again. so ill keep on doing
what im doing right now- cry inside, and in a dark
living room with no one else around, cry on the
outside too, while i scream and kick and rage inside,
but on the outside try to act all cool, cause he might
still be watching. rejection over and over again- i
crave for someone to understand me, to hold me and
tell me its all right- yet when i talk to you on the
phone you dont know ive been crying, when i see you in
the morning you dont know how much i was hurting the
night before. its like i have a splilt personality,
one second im okay with myself- see myself in the
mirror without cringing, yet the very next second, i
walk pass a mirror and glare at my reflection. i lift
up my shirt everymorning to see how much this huge
tumor growing out of my stomach has decreased in size,
then grow frustrated when its still the same size. i
step on the scale, and want to break it when i see the
numbers stagnant- …oh, my five minutes are up, and i
havent left myself anymore time to sit and scream like
i really want to
i shall
continue to walk by mirrors without looking at them,
continue to look at girls and rate myself as bigger or
smaller, compared to them, continue to slowly and
steadily kill my soul, as it seems like there’s no one
willing to save it.

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how old is she?

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Late teens. Very intelligent, high achiever. Has friends. Attractive. Most of all, NORMAL weight.

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Uhm she's anorexic?

Most of hte time eating disorders are not just about looking fat but rather... they feel life around them is out of control and the only way they can have some control in their life is through their body... by cutting bak the food and stuff, they can control how they look... its really damaging, no matter how thin they look to others, to themselves they look huge

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is she anorexic?

advising her to eat tissue paper?---u call that normal?

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yeah sara's right. its always in their minds that they are fat fat fat

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is her face bigger relative to her body?

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Fat is what fat does (Forrest Gump)

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sarah, perhaps you're worried too much. over achievers often motivate themselves by assuming that everything is wrong with them and they have to try harder. If I were in your shoes, I would keep a close eye on her, see if these feelings are reflected in her behaviour, and if they're getting the better of her.

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all you have to do is give her some attention, talk to her, go for a walk and eat ice cream.

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They are. She doesn't eat much, survives on diet coke, popcorn, and cereal. She's lost, I think, 30 pounds over the last three months. When she does eat a lot, she is consumed with guilt.

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this is very disturbing. perhaps she should seek some professional instead.

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oh.. in that case she does need professional help, if not from a professional then from you after you talk to a professional about it..

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sounds like she definitely needs help.

Perhaps you could get her to start eating by showing her healthy foods with very less calories in them so she won't be afraid to eat them, like most fruits for example.
She could get all kinds of diseases if she continues this pattern.

Seems like she has serious emotional problems which need to be resolved.

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This one girl I knew since I was like a toddler was crazy about her weight and all. She told me she was belemic early last year and me and a bunch of other friends kept trying to get her to stop and she said she would sooner or later. Anyways, so one day she ended up in the hospital. Something about her stomach acids or what not had been disturbed since she wasn't eating properly and what she did eat, she purposely threw up. Plus, she lost a lot of hair and everything too. So after that I talked to her and we came up with the solution that we'd join the tennie team together and that's just what we did. Lots of times I'd go over to her house to play tennis and now she's lost a lot of weight (she takes aerobics classes too now).

There's alternatives to lose weight rather than going to the extreme. Exercise is the healthiest and funnest way to deal with that problem. :)