How do u remember yourself becoming responsible as you grew up?
We siblings are pretty much know what we are supposed to do except the youngest of us.He still acts like a kid(ok hes a kid ,hes just 12) BUT he acts carelessly.Hes smart at studying but needs continuous reminder about his studying time.I remember when i was his age I had become aware that i need to achieve good grades and my mother never had to tell me by that time ke bachay pahlo but my brother being the youngest acts like a baby and wants to be pampered all the time.I see how hard it will be for him in years to come but he just doesnt want to grow up .If no one would tell him to study ,he would keep wasting his time
^ and you let him waste his time. and maybe he does badly on a test and thats how he learns how to be more responsible in his studying habits. you can't teach responsibility by always reminding him and getting on his case. he's 12, he can still make mistakes and recover from them, so i'd say back off a bit. let him struggle on his own and maybe he'll fail once or twice, but i bet the third time it happens, he realizes what he needs to do to succeed. so long as he knows you will always be there to pick up the pieces, he's never going to learn to be responsible.
imho, actions have consequence and those consequences, good and bad, are what teach kids responsibility.