How to deal with your own family?

[tissues]

Re: How to deal with your own family?

@lahore2nc

There are couple of instances where their behaviors cause stress in my life, but they don’t realize it. On the other hand, I feel like I am being a good child. Out of all their kids, I went to school got a professional degree and have good job. I bought the home for my parents too. It seems like my parents don’t understand how I am feeling and what I want. They still see me as 5 year old girl.
So what is the way to talk to them? I love my parents and everything. At the same time, I want them to understand me.

You yourself saying their behaviour is causing you stress & having negative affect on you. Talking to them won’t help as you have tried it before too & they dont listen to logical reasoning so its better for your own sanity sake that you stop getting affected & bothered by their behaviour & let them think what they want to think, you don’t exhaust yourself, at the end of the day Allah knows everything.

I know this is not religion forum but trust me you can’t change their thought process & behaviour towrads you unless & until Allah wants to. I am not saying don’t struggle for your rights or don’t take a stand or don’t give them reminders but their hearts & minds will only change when Allah wants them to change, you as human can only do so much.