How to deal with your own family?

Bobby1 · October 15, 2017, 11:03pm

Re: How to deal with your own family?

Like simple things after my graduation, i was looking for my job and it took me some time to find the job and my mother and sister was so negative about it that I am not looking for job on purpose.
Most of my friends live in 2 hours drive from us and if someone having mehndi dholki or any function and i want to go there and stay over for a day, my sister says my mother dont like it and you are still going “what kind daughter you are?”
My sister and mother brought a proposal back from Pakistan, and forced me to talk to him. They apparently liked him so much for me but after a while when i was okay with it too, they disapprove it and finished it off. I fought for a while but then i give up since it was creating so much tension between my parents. It was 3 years back when i was in school.
Then they showed me alot of proposals from back home and US, but nothing worked out. There was one guy who talked to me and said yes to my mom and then after a day he said no. My sister said to me I might have said something to him thats why he said no.
Recently, a guy liked me here and they came to our home and asked about me from my dad. My mother was so against and she disapprove it. She did not even disapprove it but was also ugly about it.
But my dad still said yes to the family since they were good people.
So fast forward..
Nikah date was fixed
And everyone was invited
His dad got in ICU in pakistan but the family still wanted to do it my dad said no do it in march in Pakistan
Guy side got mad about it and they feel insulted.
They talked last time and my dad still said same thing. From the begining my mom was so against and my dad was on my side and i told the guy everything from the begining and he was apparently so in “love” that he did not care.
At the end, they finished it off. They said my mother and sister was already very disrespectful, but they were okay since my dad agreed. When my dad asked for changing date, they took it as an insult.
My dad basically could not fight it for me and ended up listening to my mother and sister.

That is horrible they are more like people destroying your life to feed their egos. My rule is if they are sincere with you then they deserve respect otherwise they are people who share DNA with you and are malicious towards you. As someone said scream bloody murder and ask your mother on a daily basis how she feels about costing you happiness. Drama wins every time, create it like they have never seen it before.