OK.. so in desi households… common for parents to yell a t kids when they are mad at each other or other family problems?
how can kids deal with this?..note…a lot of hate and anger and blame is placed on them…
plus… how do you get family members living in other countries to stop creating drama and hate between your parents. rude to yell or say some thing to them?
Re: how to deal with parent's displacement anger issues
ya don't take it personally and when their mad just stay clear and ignore the relatives, no need to waste your time with them......people who cause drama always will no matter what you say
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yeah..my keyboard sucks...well when i have a job..ill buy a new one
hmm ignoring doesn't help.... the chaapls and other household items still rocket towards you
but see with this attitude....extended family just thinks they can do all this... and you get the blame for it
Re: how to deal with parent's displacement anger issues
Well if there is actual Abuse then don't deal with it. Having things thrown at you is not normal. At any level.
If its your parents its one thing. If its your extended family, shove them down the stairs.
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you have to learn how to stay clear of the chappals :D......I kid
try having a conversation with them, and point it out to them ........but I really don't get it are the relatives staying stuff about you or are they just pissing your parents off and the parents are taking their anger out on you?
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haha I wish....
aite...let me think about your new thread now... and forget about parents for a while...will distract me lolz
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^ Dear MM , I know what you are talking about . I have lived with that but the only thing that was better was there were no flying chappals etc. I don't think you can do much at this stage. I hope and pray that things get better in your house. Pray hard to Allah , read suar-e- muzammil and sura-e-yaseen pray for peace in your house & in your lives.
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^ thank you Diamond. Will do.
just wish desi households will let the other houses live in peace.... but sadly our culture should have its own mental ward
^ Guac...relatives stressing parents...so then parents fight with each other....and get angry @ kids
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Wear a helmet (football or baseball) to protect yourself from flying footwear. :p
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^ Yeah, just make sure you dont do a touch-down with the chappal and do a celebratory dance.
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OK.. so in desi households... common for parents to yell a t kids when they are mad at each other or other family problems?
how can kids deal with this?....note...a lot of hate and anger and blame is placed on them...
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take it khamoshi se at that time cuz no point speaking and making the situation worse....let it go if its trivial..if its something major..then talk it out with parents when they arent in an angry mood.
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plus.... how do you get family members living in other countries to stop creating drama and hate between your parents. rude to yell or say some thing to them?
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It is rude to yell...but not rude to say something politely.
Re: how to deal with parent's displacement anger issues
Parents getting angry and taking the frustration out on kids happens in every household(some more often than others). The important thing is that parents realize what they have done is wrong and make a conscious effort to not do it again.
What you can do to prevent it is that when your parents are in a good mood you can then tell them that mom/dad i was kinda hurt that you did this or you shouldn't have done that and make them realize their mistake in a respectable manner.
Hope it helps