Re: how to deal with lack of respect
Firstly of all, like Stoppit already said…if your husband has said YOU didn’t want to go…that would’ve given you MIL a reason to bash you (ie. Nadz is anti-social, Nadz doesn’t want to spend time with family etc. etc. etc.). By saying “uska kya kaam hai udher”, you husband is indirectly taking “blame” for you not going. You should’ve thanked him for saying what he did!
To your MIL and other people, even if it sound like he’s controlling you…so what? You know he doesn’t control you, HE knows he doesn’t control you…why isn’t that good enough? Just like I have said before many times Nadz, stop being so concerned about what other people think. Stay focused on yourself and your husband.
Whether or not your husband knew that you didn’t want to go doesn’t make any difference. The bottom line is that he chose to take the blame for you not going INSTEAD of putting the blame on you by saying you didn’t want to go. This was a perfect opportunity for you win brownie points with him by telling him in private how much you appreciated him saying that to MIL b/c in your heart, you didn’t want to go. Instead, once again you reacted with your emotions instead of staying focused on the big picture.