im growing up. as much as i would like to resist that fact…i am. and there comes a point and time in one’s life when someone dies. someone close to you, or someone who is close to someone who is close to you.
but i don’t know what to do in those situations. i am so tactless. i really really really don’t know what to say. what is the appropriate thing you say when you hear that. how do you make the other person feel better? i mean…i feel bad…i have the proper emotions (i think) but how to express them? i really really avoid it when my mom does it. maybe i shouldn’t.
very interesting point.
I didnt know how to handle it so i just hugged this aunty that we know and changed the topic. I am sure that wasnt the best way to handle it.
I do hear people say "bohot afsoos hoa Allah un ko jannat Ata kare ameen" and i see guys making duas. I dont see elderly women doing duas when they meet those who have lost their loved one. May be i havent been in that situatin yet ...
same happend to me when my teacher's mom died in 6th grade and every body went down to her house to share her grievences and almost everyone said somethin abt how sry they were but only thing i asked her was ** WO KAB FOOT HOEY THEY ? ** :( .. even now i say nothing but ** OHHH SRY TO HEAR THAT so wat else ? ** .. i dont know i just cant talk abt it !!!
ok, i see what you mean. what you guys mentioned, that is really what you usually do when it's like someone you barely know. like the friend of a friend of a friend. but when do you do when you have to console like a relative of yours, or like some friend who is really really close to you, and you kinda do know how they died. i mean the person close to them. like what do you say to the other close person, to make them feel better?