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LOL. And I know plenty of Muslim men and women who living in sprawling houses and drive luxury cars …and they don’t drink at all.
Equating drinking with “material success” is the same kind of logic that the ads and TV commercials want people to fall for. One’s success comes from their hard work and duas. Not from alcohol.
Biryani and alcohol are not on the same level. Just as cousin marriages and genital mutilation are not on the same level. Just like every single social is not on the same effing level as child molestation. Even if you eat biryani to excess…at least your body derives some nutritional value from the rice, the meat, the spices. The same can’t be said for alcohol. You must be drunk yourself each time you post here. Cuz you seem to be on a roll to submit as many dumb posts as possible before the New Year.
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You are drunk on bigotry, benefits of moderate drinking are well researched
Red wine is probably the best known source of resveratrol due to the fermentation process that turns grape juice to alcohol. When red wine is produced, grape seeds and skins ferment in the grape’s juices, which has a positive effect on the levels and availability of resveratrol.
People use resveratrol for a number of anti-aging and healing benefits, and research suggests that it can boost your health in the following ways: (17)
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^Ahaan and the “booze” that you serve your kids and their friends is most certainly always red wine. And the alcohol that OP consumes when she’s out with her friends is most certainly always red wine. You are one of those fools that if there are 2 options…where one of them has 20% benefit and 80% harm…and the other has 20% harm and 80% benefit, you will choose the former. Biryani sure dulls one’s senses to the point of causing driving accidents, brawls, rapes, unemployment, troubled marriages, etc etc.
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Actually the cardiovascular health and longevity studies are not limited to red wine, it is all alcohol, people who drank moderately lived longer and had better heart health. Safy drinks socially and he buys his own mostly. Just during holiday season I had Vodka with his friends playing poker with them. safy did not drink any. I taught him to drink responsibly. Kids coming from religious families drink like crazy. When they were sending me to get my arteries checked i was scared as I eat a lot of red meat and eggs and my arteries were clear and also my heart and liver. I think because of moderate drinking.
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I can’t believe this thread is devolving into some DARE lecture. Unless she is chugging 6 gallons of Vodka down every week, there probably isn’t any harm to how much she drinks. No1currs about these “you’ll become and alcoholic” lectures.
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Surprisingly when the news broke about rampant molestations in Madrassas not a beep came out of the haram police and a girl talks about social drinking and wrath of God is invoked..lol
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People are really out here doing the most, acting like her saying “drinking here and there” means that she is partying at any chance she can get and getting blackout drunk. Like, gtfo with that mess. I know you are known for your theatrics, but some of these people aren’t far behind.
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“With alcohol and the heart, it’s a benefit and risk trade off. So, for example, alcohol’s anti-clotting ability, potentially protective against heart attack, may increase the risk of hemorrhagic stroke (when a blood vessel bursts inside the brain), or bleeding within the brain. Beyond the daily unit guidelines, alcohol’s potential benefits on the heart are outweighed by its increased risks of developing other illnesses, such as liver disease or cancer.”
"The effect of alcohol on your heart is complex. For some people, even moderate alcohol use carries major risks. Research is ongoing to clarify the relationship of alcohol and heart disease. You may have heard that moderate alcohol consumption (red wine or beer) may offer some people protection against heart disease. However, until more is known about the pros and cons of alcohol consumption, the American Heart Association cautions people NOT to start drinking alcohol for better heart health."
“Although a lot of concern surrounding alcohol consumption focuses on “heavy” drinking (more than one or two drinks per day over the course of a week)–a behavior the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports claims 88,000 lives each year–even moderate alcohol consumption is considered too great a risk for certain populations, including women who are pregnant or may become pregnant. Risk of death and certain types of cancer increase even with very minimal consumption.”
“In fact, we now understand that an individual’s ability to benefit from moderate drinking largely depends on genetics, with a paltry 15 percent of the population possessing the gene associated with alcohol’s favorable effect on heart health. The other 85 percent of us? Maybe not so much. Across the board, experts advise non-drinkers to continue abstaining; that is, drinking’s potential benefits compared to its risks do not make it worthwhile for individuals to start drinking if they don’t already”
“One study of 53,000 people further supports abstinence from alcohol based on its findings that there is no significant benefit to drinking moderately. The researchers explained that previous research defined “non-drinkers” as ranging from anyone who has never touched a drop to recovering alcoholics and heavy drinkers who simply no longer drink. The latter group (former drinkers) tend to have poorer health, thus skewing the non-drinking group and making them appear less healthy than moderate drinkers.”
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This.
Move out, you’re a freakin adult. Get your own place and get a job so you don’t have to mooch off your brother or parents. I know it’s not culturally acceptable but neither is drinking and you don’t seem to have a problem with that.
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I don’t recall OP saying anywhere in her post that she is unemployed. She did say that she can’t afford living independently, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that she does not have a job.
Moreover, I don’t think that “moving out” is a solution as it doesn’t tackle the problem at its “root.” She can move out to the opposite side of the world and that still will not rid her brother of his hypocrisy and nor will it rid OP of her own inner hypocrisies. To get to the root of the matter, OP needs to do some introspection and ask herself why she’s drinking, what she believes in, and what she stands for. Being an “adult” does not depend upon moving out. There are plenty of “adults” out there that are living independently and making childish/detrimental decisions. And there are plenty of “adults” living with their families. It’s not just about financial independence or having your own place. Being an adult also means knowing what your beliefs are, knowing what you stand for so that you’re not giving into peer pressure, thinking critically about things and weighing the pros and cons, being willing to inwardly examine yourself for flaws in thinking and accepting accountability.
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Ahh got ya… thanks ISWIS!
OP it doesn’t seem like you want to stop drinking and if you are not in a place financially where you can move out your only remaining choice is to ignore the comments.
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Actually people do sometimes buy their dream car after becoming a parent. I think what you meant to say was that she needs to make sure she doesn’t become a mother before marrying the good looking Canadian guy. Cuz that may not be a very good idea. :-/
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So, Icono, since you’re a doctor…I’ve a question. Do the majority of doctors favor abstinence in drinking, or light-to-moderate drinking?
Also, the conspiracy-theorist within me wonders if drinking is encouraged because there’s little profit to be made to be made with complete abstinence for the medical profession.
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We don’t recognize that qualification here many of those are janitors here, I am not encouraging drinking but extreme examples of dire consequences are not warranted. Cardiovascular disease is an epidemic in Pakistanis
