Girlwithdreams,
You kinda answered your own question when you said the following in your post:
"So a couple of us have flat out decided that “hey why talk to her at all?” if she’s going to act like that.. .then let her be happy in her own little world.."
I read Soundi's summary and then I went back and read your original post. And it seems to me that this girl, Amna, either has a major insecurity problem.....OR (if she's been like this ever since day 1) then maybe she has some antisocial disorder. She lacks social etiquette. For example, she's frequently blowing her own trumpet (feeling the need to show off).......she's super competitive......is not flexible with having social interactions/conversations that don't revolve around her.
^I know of someone that is similar to your former friend, Amna. This individual (that I know) displays similar characteristics as your friend Amna..........and also lacks friends. In other words, few if any friends are seen around the person. Why? Because people are turned off by this person's anti-social behavior. And instead of reflecting over their own mistakes...........the person justifies their loneliness by saying that the problem is with the "OTHER PEOPLE"......that the OTHER PEOPLE have the attitude problem or jealousy.....and that they are "INNOCENT" and "PERFECT."
^^^It's much easier for people to blame others than to contemplate their own mistakes. And that's what Amna is doing.
Why are you wasting time on her sweetheart? The girl doesn't have friends.......that's how offensive her personality is. That is one lonely life and existence. You're more fortunate in this regard. She probably has ZERO PEACE OF MIND because her mind is always in competition mode and frequently consumed with negative thoughts. You know how unhealthy that is?????? She's damaging her health, her soul/spirit, and relationships with others. There's so much that this girl is LOSING out on. You're getting worked up over a person who is internally VERY DEFEATED (and can't even admit it).
As far as this Amna girl is concerned, you don't really even need to seek revenge or put Amna "in her place." She's already screwing herself over. When she gossips about other people................people take notice of that and will think that she's a backstabber that can't be trusted. She's creating a bad reputation for herself. She'd digging her own grave...........and she's adamant about it. For example, if she's going to gossip about you being a "Bad Muslim" during the dholki.............then SHE HERSELF should NOT have attended the dholki if she was so opposed to singing, music, and short sleeved shirts. If you can criticize.........but don't have the courage to avoid the situation you're criticizing........then technically being a participant makes her a "Bad Muslim" too. And I think people can see this.
Also, this girl has to have learned such toxic behavior from somewhere. SOMEONE must be promoting or fueling her negative habits (jealousy, competition, backbiting, etc). I wonder if it's her mother that's breeding this behavior in her. I wonder if her husband might be doing this. Also, I think she feels insecure/embarrassed about her husband and his poor English....and feels the need to compensate for this by saying that he's a "Double Masters, etc."
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That’s just weird. I would not go up to some auntie and ask why their daughter blocked me from facebook, nor has someone called up my mom and asked why I blocked them from fb. It amazes me how clueless some people can be when it comes to social behavior.
