Hi, im a guy, 20 living in N.Y. This problem has been bothering me for quite sometime and I think now is the time for me to confront it and resolve it because I simply can’t tolerate it anymore and drivea me to the wall.
My parents are super overprotective (i know where they are coming from with this, but they also must see thinga from mine- a young adult’s pov too). If i’m late than the time I had told them, my phone starts ringing, I cannot be out past 10, yet i work until 12am 4x a week, makea sense doesn’t it? Juat, help me out guya, I don’t want to disrespect my parents but I also need my space and freedom because its now or never. Thanks !
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you and your parents need to go to a family counseling session...i'm sure they will solve your and your parents' problems amicably! western people don't go to their folks for advice, they go to counseling and pay for the session...fair, innit? these counselors pay a lot of monet for their education and training...they need to make a buck...eh?
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Speak to your parents directly- they won't know what's bothering you unless you tell them. If they say it's not safe to be out later etc etc, explain politely that you do for work so surely if once in awhile you are a bit later than the specified time it shouldn't be too big a deal.
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For paindos it takes time, no offence meant, i love paindoos.
Unfortunately its going to be an effort making them understand, start from today.
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So what do they say when you're coming home after 12 anyway?
Re: How to confront overprotective parents?
you and your parents need to go to a family counseling session...i'm sure they will solve your and your parents' problems amicably! western people don't go to their folks for advice, they go to counseling and pay for the session...fair, innit? these counselors pay a lot of monet for their education and training...they need to make a buck...eh?
I hope you're being sarcastic.
Been through that mate and it's a matter of gradually pushing the boundaries. At first parents are extra concerned because it's something new. They aren't used to their child being out so late. You need to slowly show them that you can be out late and be responsible. Don't push the limits too far too quickly, it must be gradual.
You must earn this trust.
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So what do they say when you're coming home after 12 anyway?
My dad starts calling me and says, get home right away, what are you doing out so late? GET HOME ASAP !
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I hope you're being sarcastic.
Been through that mate and it's a matter of gradually pushing the boundaries. At first parents are extra concerned because it's something new. They aren't used to their child being out so late. You need to slowly show them that you can be out late and be responsible. Don't push the limits too far too quickly, it must be gradual.
You must earn this trust.
would you mind sharing how you started to do it? And, how old were you at the time?
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You'll have to start doing things that you know are okay and acceptable, but that they are still unhappy about because they will take your decision to be a little more independent as a personal insult, though it is not one. Hopefully, once you are able to build trust, they will grow to accept your independence.
1. Always be honest about where you are.
2. When you leave, tell them where you are going and when you will be home. Call if there is any change.
3. Make time for them in your life. Make it clear that you want to do things with them, not just on your time, but also when they need it. Help them with work/chores/responsibilities as well as engage with them in more fun/social activities.
4. Try to stay calm and don't show too much that you are annoyed and frustrated with them.
5. If you are feeling frustrated, wait till both of you are calm and can talk face to face about your concerns/feelings.