i wanna comeout of this weird feeling, wanna live my life, i wannna 4get everything he did to me, he betrayed me, he was untrustworthy, i made a huge mstake ov ma life to trust him , he ruined 5 yrs of my life letting me wait to send his rishta, n now disappeared totally … I hate him 4 everything he did, he’ lier, i curse him, I want Allah to punish him… i m lost, i hate men, want to cry, i dnt wanna share my thoughts/ feelings to anyone, em annoyed, fadup ov my life, historically bitter, wanna b in peace, wanna come over this bitter feeling :S, i’ll curse him 4 my whole life, wanna throw him out ov my mind, but every time his thoughts follow me :S. em getting sick, help me … :s
Re: How to comeover thies weird feeling…
time is the biggest healer. I know you are angry and you are hurt. He really did wrong with you. He will get what he deserves, because I firmly believe that what goes around comes around. Learn from your mistake of waiting 5 years for someone and move on. I know it’s easier said than done. Remember that it’s not the end of life. Even worse things happen with people. Thank God he didn’t marry you because he is a liar & betrayer and Thank God you didn’t end up with someone like him. It was just a relationship which ended , sadly painfully for you.You will find someone who will value you & love you. Just concentrate on your life and think about yourself. Work on making your life better & better, this is the best what you can do for yourself. Love yourself and don’t let yourself suffer any more.
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What goes around comes around.
You will get over it IF you want to help yourself get over it.
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Aaaw right now best not to dwell on the past.
I have often been struck and when i am i just get back up and find a new cause... theres no shortage of usefull causes in this world i'm sure you will get up and find somehting else in which to lose your sorrows, perhaps another cause will help you meet new people and repair the damage done.
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stop depending on others for your happiness and your life will get better.
it esp goes for women who depend on men for their happiness.
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thats so sweet ov u all. guys just pyray 4me to recover asap. i dont want his single thought in ma mind :S
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Only YOU can help yourself.
We can simply provide a lil mental support.
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My unworthy prayers are with you…
Allah help you through this… Ameen.
This is usefull i think.
Hope it wakes your heart.
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Better to have lost 5 years to him than to have lost 10, 20, 30 years in a miserable marriage!
Pick yourself up and move forward.
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good advice AmorAmor
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i hope i cud throw him out ov my mind, u kno i can curse him live, i can call him or write him a mail on hi official address, but em just sitting silent with no reactions cuz i kno if i'll say sumthing , Allah wont ask him, but if i'll remain silent then Allah will punish him 4 sure, n i want this to happen
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Seems to me that the only one you're punishing is yourself.
How did you manage to have a relationship with him without his and your families finding out?
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Historically bitter??? ...is there such a thing?
Historically bitter??? ...is there such a thing?
cus i was never bitter as i m now
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A Quote from Batman would help here .. ''Why do we fall sir? So we might learn to pick ourselves up''
Good Luck
i wanna comeout of this weird feeling, wanna live my life, i wannna 4get everything he did to me, he betrayed me, he was untrustworthy, i made a huge mstake ov ma life to trust him , he ruined 5 yrs of my life letting me wait to send his rishta, n now disappeared totally ....... I hate him 4 everything he did, he' lier, i curse him, I want Allah to punish him.... i m lost, i hate men, want to cry, i dnt wanna share my thoughts/ feelings to anyone, em annoyed, fadup ov my life, historically bitter, wanna b in peace, wanna come over this bitter feeling :S, i'll curse him 4 my whole life, wanna throw him out ov my mind, but every time his thoughts follow me :S. em getting sick, help me ..... :s
Use this mistake as a lesson for the rest of your life. Hopefully, it will be better.
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yup
as said above,
use this as a good lesson and proceed in ur life
i still don’t understand y ppl trust a stranger THIS MUCH
i wanna comeout of this weird feeling, wanna live my life, i wannna 4get everything he did to me, he betrayed me, he was untrustworthy, i made a huge mstake ov ma life to trust him , he ruined 5 yrs of my life letting me wait to send his rishta, n now disappeared totally ....... I hate him 4 everything he did, he' lier, i curse him, I want Allah to punish him.... i m lost, i hate men, want to cry, i dnt wanna share my thoughts/ feelings to anyone, em annoyed, fadup ov my life, historically bitter, wanna b in peace, wanna come over this bitter feeling :S, i'll curse him 4 my whole life, wanna throw him out ov my mind, but every time his thoughts follow me :S. em getting sick, help me ..... :s
I understand that venting can bring some relief. But along with that, you need some tough love.
1) You will never be able to "forget" whatever it is that he did to you. Jab humain choti si choti/mamooli/faltoo kisam ki baatain yaad rehti hain to painful baatain ko kaisay bhoola ja sakta hai??? Aur bhoolna bhi nahin chahiye because then you won't learn any lesson from it. Ghaltiyan mit to nahin sakti...lekin un se seekha to ja sakta hai na? That's life and everybody goes through this, not only you. In fact, some people are in a WORSE situation than you. Think about those who have less than you and are suffering more than you.
2) You keep saying that he ruined 5 years of your life. And we don't know the details of what happened in your relationship and if you don't feel comfortable sharing them, that's fine. But...if he misled you for 5 years...is it possible that maybe you allowed yourself to be misled? Ab koi tumhay ZABARDASTI to 5 saal sabar nahin karvaa sakta na? Chahay doosra banda tumahay kitna bhi emotionally pressure karay...tum apni marzi ki malik ho. If he was making a fool out of you.....you didn't have to wait that long for him. If he was a coward buzdil insaan....you didn't have to wait for him. Tum agar chahti to yeh bhi keh sakti thi k 1-2 years k andar agar us ne rishta nahin bheja, to phir I am moving on with my life. Lekin us ne rishta nahin bheja.....aur tum us ka wait karti gayi. Ho sakta hai k woh tum main interested na ho...aur us k paas itni himmat nahin thi k woh tumhay seedhi tarha yeh bataye k woh ab interested nahin hai. Maybe he was buz dil. Us ki ghalati thi, lekin tumhari ghalati bhi to hai k tum us ka wait karti gayi. Is larkay k ilava is duniya main bahut se log hain jo k kisi ka dil rakhnay k liye jhoot bol dain ge and you have to be strong enough to see that they're not serious.
^^^For example....tum kisi ko apnay ghar invite karti ho....aur woh banda baar baar bahanay de kar invitation ko refuse kar deta hai. Aik point k baad tum is baat ko realize karo gi k yeh banda sincere nahin hai....aur tum se milne main interested nahin hai aur us ko invite karne ka ya wait karne main koi faida nahin.
Take this as a learning experience sweetheart. Believe me I know it's easier said than done. But in the future, don't allow yourself to wait for 5 years for ANY guy.
3) "Historically bitter" ka matlab hai that you have "always" been bitter. Now, that does not sound positive or even reasonable. You are not historically bitter. Is larkay k aanay se pehlay bhi tum jee rahi thi....tumhari zindagi thi. Think about it. I'm sure you smiled, laughed, and had FUN....BEFORE this guy ever entered your life. And inshaAllah eventually you'll have that same happiness again.
4) You already lost 5 years to him (and because of your own mistake of waiting for him),.now don't waste another second on him. Do you want to waste 5 years and 5 more hours on him? Do you want to waste 5 years and 6 months on him? Do you want to waste 6, 7, 8 years on him? NO, right??? So, don't give him any more power over you. Life is already short, don't make it shorter by thinking about him. Instead spend your time with people who truly love you and care about (like friends and family).
5) Imagine being married to someone who doesn't care about you. That would be much worse. Allah has a plan for everyone. Seek strength and help through prayer/namaz. You won't forget...but with time, the intensity of the hurt will decrease.
I understand that venting can bring some relief. But along with that, you need some tough love.
1) You will never be able to "forget" whatever it is that he did to you. Jab humain choti si choti/mamooli/faltoo kisam ki baatain yaad rehti hain to painful baatain ko kaisay bhoola ja sakta hai??? Aur bhoolna bhi nahin chahiye because then you won't learn any lesson from it. Ghaltiyan mit to nahin sakti...lekin un se seekha to ja sakta hai na? That's life and everybody goes through this, not only you. In fact, some people are in a WORSE situation than you. Think about those who have less than you and are suffering more than you.
2) You keep saying that he ruined 5 years of your life. And we don't know the details of what happened in your relationship and if you don't feel comfortable sharing them, that's fine. But...if he misled you for 5 years...is it possible that maybe you allowed yourself to be misled? Ab koi tumhay ZABARDASTI to 5 saal sabar nahin karvaa sakta na? Chahay doosra banda tumahay kitna bhi emotionally pressure karay...tum apni marzi ki malik ho. If he was making a fool out of you.....you didn't have to wait that long for him. If he was a coward buzdil insaan....you didn't have to wait for him. Tum agar chahti to yeh bhi keh sakti thi k 1-2 years k andar agar us ne rishta nahin bheja, to phir I am moving on with my life. Lekin us ne rishta nahin bheja.....aur tum us ka wait karti gayi. Ho sakta hai k woh tum main interested na ho...aur us k paas itni himmat nahin thi k woh tumhay seedhi tarha yeh bataye k woh ab interested nahin hai. Maybe he was buz dil. Us ki ghalati thi, lekin tumhari ghalati bhi to hai k tum us ka wait karti gayi. Is larkay k ilava is duniya main bahut se log hain jo k kisi ka dil rakhnay k liye jhoot bol dain ge and you have to be strong enough to see that they're not serious.
^^^For example....tum kisi ko apnay ghar invite karti ho....aur woh banda baar baar bahanay de kar invitation ko refuse kar deta hai. Aik point k baad tum is baat ko realize karo gi k yeh banda sincere nahin hai....aur tum se milne main interested nahin hai aur us ko invite karne ka ya wait karne main koi faida nahin.
Take this as a learning experience sweetheart. Believe me I know it's easier said than done. But in the future, don't allow yourself to wait for 5 years for ANY guy.
3) "Historically bitter" ka matlab hai that you have "always" been bitter. Now, that does not sound positive or even reasonable. You are not historically bitter. Is larkay k aanay se pehlay bhi tum jee rahi thi....tumhari zindagi thi. Think about it. I'm sure you smiled, laughed, and had FUN....BEFORE this guy ever entered your life. And inshaAllah eventually you'll have that same happiness again.
4) You already lost 5 years to him (and because of your own mistake of waiting for him),.now don't waste another second on him. Do you want to waste 5 years and 5 more hours on him? Do you want to waste 5 years and 6 months on him? Do you want to waste 6, 7, 8 years on him? NO, right??? So, don't give him any more power over you. Life is already short, don't make it shorter by thinking about him. Instead spend your time with people who truly love you and care about (like friends and family).
5) Imagine being married to someone who doesn't care about you. That would be much worse. Allah has a plan for everyone. Seek strength and help through prayer/namaz. You won't forget...but with time, the intensity of the hurt will decrease.
Thanks dear, u r right, its mine mistake aswell, i gave him hold on maself, n ofcourse i hve learned a big lesson cuz ov my mistakes, i dont even will to waste my 1 sec by looking at his pic, he never deserve me , ur post really helped me alot, n ofcourse all ov yew are super caring one :)
lucky to got u ppl
Re: How to comeover thies weird feeling.....
our life does not stop even if someone, very close to us dies then why we stop living happily when someone (who is not even close to us since he does not catre about us) gets out of our life?
rather, we should be happy that okay, Thank to God that i didn't spend my whole life with someone like that .. .. :) .. .. all these things might seem stupid to you but give yourself some time and you will realize that it will prove the best thing of your life. you got rid of some ditcher.
Pray, Pray and Pray .. .. and distract yoruself ..