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A shot of vodka will help 
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Punjabirose, talk to your physician and ask him/her to prescribe some anti anxiety pills.
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lol
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lol- is that what you did?
But in all seriousness common… u were completely relaxed on your wedding day nikki baji? if so - all im asking is what was your trick? 
That would be my dad and I would get a big fat NO from him. lol
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I still have 2 months to go and im already freaking out. Im taking anxiety pills and it does help actually.
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That would be my dad and I would get a big fat NO from him. lol
Oh your dad is a doctor. That is great. Make him understand. Its a genuine concern and I am sure he will understand.
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I still have 2 months to go and im already freaking out. Im taking anxiety pills and it does help actually.
Seriously???? What are you taking if you do not mind me asking hun? And how do you feel that they help?
Oh your dad is a doctor. That is great. Make him understand. Its a genuine concern and I am sure he will understand.
My dad just has no concept or understanding on how or why a wedding could be stressful or cause anxiety. When you try to explain, he laughs and just hugs you and says "dont worry so much beta ji.. ". He means really well and guys i think sometimes dont understand the emotions and stresses of the shaadi process (i say this bc i asked my fiance and he is as clueless as my dad as to why im feeling the way I am).
When he says that and hugs me .... i get even more anxious because I think about rukhsati and all.... lol.
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me and my mother both need anti anxiety pills,we are freekign out and having fights over stupid things all the time,and my father is a doctor too and we would also get a bif NO from him if we ask for anythign like anti anxiety pills .Im the only dughter and so close to my mom i dont knw what i wud do without her or she wud do without me.... we fight like kids these days over silly things...i knw the reason is that both of us are so scared and tense ...what should we do
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lol y'all. JUST PRAY.
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awee … 
If it was a “lol” thing I would not have dedicated a thread to it. You may find it funny but myself and other brides find it to be a legitimate concern for ourselves. Also, how do you know that we are not praying?
And not to get too medical … but some of us im sure are more prone to anxiety due to other reasons (family history, recent emotional trauma, etc.) … its not as simple as "lol"ing about it and telling us to pray…
just saying…
plus … i know very few brides… no matter what their race, culture, religion .. that were NOT atleast a bit flustered/tense/and or emotional for some time either before the wedding or during…
Which is why i opened up this thread…so that the “been there done that” brides could give brides like me and iris some advice.
Some of the suggestions have been wonderful… drinking tea…having your best friend around you… having family time the night before the wedding…
Thanks guppans… keep 'em coming!
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Delegate tasks so that you’re not the one left to stress about everything on the big day. Meaning, you shouldnt be the one worried about vendors showing up on time, things being in place, guests being greeted, etc. So, delegate as MUCH as possible to people.
Have someone at the banquet hall (make sure they have their clothes with them, hair done, etc) to direct vendors as they come in. This is if you dont have a wedding planner of course.
Have someone with you to babysit you…you WILL need this
Have someone in charge of making sure your family is ready on time
I had booked multiple places for hair appointments so people werent waiting for one stylist to work their way through 10 girls
I also tried to see if my vendors could get in the day before the event…some places will let you do that so you have less to worry about on the day of. It also depends if they have an event scheduled right before yours.
The thing is, no matter what you do…that day will be chaotic. So control what you can and leave the rest to people who are NOT the bride! 
Dont be so responsible for everything that you feel the wedding will fall apart if you’re not there. My sisters were very much involved and had everything under control on the big day…the only thing I did was show up as a bride on time for my portraits.
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what you need is a ncie strong drink! maybe a shot or 2 of vodka or brandy LOL!
talk to your hubby. in instances like these your both bound to be feeling nervous, anxious, scared, excited etc.
always the best thing is to do wuzhu, read 2 rakat nafal shukrana and read durood shareef. GUARANTEED to calm you down and provide you with the spiritual support that you would need.
stay amongst CLOSE family and friends (not distant cousins, uncles aunties etc) who will provide moral support and keep you entertained etc.
last resort - VALIUM! lol.
best of luck hun and all the best
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My mehndi was the day before the wedding and finished quite late so i fell asleep easily enough. on the actualy wedding day the whole thing just seemed so surreal that i was sort of just spaced out for the whole day lol, which actually helped in calming an nerves!
my advice to you would be to keep one person you're close to, like a family member ot friend and have them stay with you the whole time, appoint them as your official distracter of nerves! Mainly just try and relax and remember to enjoy your big day :)
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Those are awesome tips Reha… wrote them ALL down! They are all tips to make the day less chaotic… which in turn will definitely cause less anxiety. My favorite tip you gave which I would not have thought of is to have someone ready and tyaar to direct the vendors as they come. I am not having a wedding planner…so thats a great idea.
Thanks My fiance was chilling at the time of the engagement… and im sure will be chilling at the time of the shaadi. Hahah. Maybe he will feel a bit more flustered at the time of the walima since he is doing the majority of the planning for that.
But yea… i am hoping that as soon as I see him at the hall when my parents bring me in, That that will instantly calm all my nerves as he does seem to have that effect on me. 
LOL - “official distracter of nerves” - LUV IT !!! This seems to be everyone’s biggest tip and I will surely employ this. Absolutely luv the way you put it tho haha. Thank you!
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no bachelorette party ? 
'Tis the day.
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Daisy what date in february? im getting married in february too