Suppose, you meet someone who expresses the interests to marry you,and after few weeks of getting to know each other,you feel you don’t want to marry him, due to any reasons like,your parents won’t agree,you don’t find him compatible,he has certain habits which you can’t put up with,or due to any other reason. How do you call it off with that person without hurting yourself and him? Should you just silently go away from their life without contacting them at all?Should you talk/write to them & explain everything in details?
And once the breakup is done, how not to be hurt because of it?How to cope up with it?
Re: How to break up with someone without getting hurt?
Three words. "YOU ARE FAT". But wait, that's for breaking up with a girl.
Re: How to break up with someone without getting hurt?
It depends on the reason. If you and him are not on the same page or are not compatible....that seems like more of a reason to end things. IF things are going great betwee you two....and your fear the parents won't agree, then one might choose to try convincing them.
Unless you were not at all sincere about this guy and unless you did not invest any emotional energy in him and only saw him as "time pass".........it IS going to hurt to breakup. That's something that you WILL go through and there's no way out of it......especially if you've invested a good deal of time/energy in him. How much you will hurt and how soon you'll move on....are questions that don't have an exact answer. To just disappear and leave him hanging would be rude. The more decent thing would be to discuss the matter with him....and then cut off contact. You could just limit/reduce contact...but often times that delays the process of moving on.
Re: How to break up with someone without getting hurt?
you can't eat your cake and still have it so you can't have feelings and not get hurt...period! :)
Re: How to break up with someone without getting hurt?
you can't eat your cake and still have it so you can't have feelings and not get hurt*...period! :)*
This dude has a good point. Girl on their periods have heightened emotions, so better to break up at some other point.
Re: How to break up with someone without getting hurt?
Re: How to break up with someone without getting hurt?
It's better not to be in a position that "you get to know someone enough for them to want to marry you without your parents knowing about him" ... If one had the guts to "get to know him" without parent's knowledge then one better have the guts to do what the parents would otherwise be doing ... which is giving the bad news of disinterest to the other party if one felt it was going no where ...
Simply say ... "I don't want you to allow yourself to get hurt or feel attached, but I do not feel our relationship will develop and wish to end any further dates/meetings in order for us to move on with out life pursuits".
Or even easier ... "thanks for the meal ... I don't think we should meet again ... I hope you find someone else who is good for you ... because I am not ... "
Re: How to break up with someone without getting hurt?
"its not you..its me" : )
Re: How to break up with someone without getting hurt?
If u breakup the other person will be hurt. Make him break up !
Re: How to break up with someone without getting hurt?
"its not you..its me" : )
This line NEVER works! Everyone knows it's a line, even when it's not a line. And from what I've seen, the other person still wants closure and more information/explanation.
Like RV said, once emotions are involved, you can't prevent hurting the other or protecting yourself from hurt. You cope or deal with the situation, knowing that you are both adults and time will help each of you past this moment and the hurt.
Re: How to break up with someone without getting hurt?
to me i think just silently go away