So how do guys introduce or let your parents know of someone special? Best way for a desi girl to break the news?
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gosh, just tell em, they're ya parents. They wont bite.
^ orphy, desi parents do bite 
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Do not tell your parents,
“oh ma, pa, I know this guy and his parents are going to call you tonight to come over for a rishta” That’s not going to go over too well 
Ease them into it as, “I know someone, can I tell you more about him?” and then take it from there.
“mom … dad … erm … I … hmmm … meet Raju … he … I … I mean …”
mom’s response 
dad’s response 
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Oh my God! No body ever explained this to you? Ok, listen carefully. Sit them down. Tell them you want to play a game of Charades. Then proceed to act out "Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge". Then, when they guess it, fireworks will go off outside. The whole neighborhood will light up. Mithai will be passed everywhere. And the soundtrack of your life will play in the background. Good luck! :D
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how bout when the parents dont watch movies and the relationship with them isnt that open that talkign about this wouldnt be a big deal. partyslims did u just watch a bollywood movie?
i havent told my dad yet but i told my mum a couple of months ago while we were cooking in the kitchen together. she was telling me about a family friend who keeps hinting to my mum that her son is interested in me and i blurted out 'how do you know i havent already found someone'? she just carried on chopping the onions and asked me 'well, have u'? sooo i ended up telling her about everything and of course she asked me all sorts of questions about him and his family and i even showed her some pics. all in all it went pretty smoothly :D
just pick a time when both of them are in a good mood and sit them down and tell them. dont be nervous or scared. i felt quite nervous telling my mum but she was really happy for me. if u feel u cant tell ur dad urself then tell ur mum and get her to break it to ur dad. goodluck!
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awwww im happy for u lipstick!!! im glad someone atleast has an understanding mom lol
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lil_ash, I was just joking. Would be fun to be able to watch an Indian movie at work, alas the world cup will do :D Anyway, take Sehrysh's advice of talking to them, or at least the person you are closer to. IF you are uncomfortable talking to them, perhaps you have an aunt, uncle, older cousin (blood relation) who can mediate for you and your parents.
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thanks lil_ash :)
are u having trouble telling ur parents?
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i guess it would be best to start with ur mom, tell he the whole thing and when u have "satisfied" and she is kinda convinced and ready to meet the boy
she`ll talk to ur father herself and u can take it from there ...
Partyslim's way is more fun....but Sehrysh is right IMO. Ease em into it. If you rush it, it might even turn them off to the idea.
If your parents are actively searching rishtas for you and the "rishta talk" comes up OFTEN....then you may not even have to initiate the question. The very next time that they bring up the rishta topic....take that as the perfect segway for you to bring up this guy that you're interested in. You could say, "Mom, since the topic of rishtas came up, there's a guy who is interested in me and from what I know of him so far, I find him compatible.....etc etc. Once you bring the topic up...the details about the guy will naturally follow (his name, what he does, his age, how you met him, and that he's thinking of bringing his parents over sometime soon...and that you wanted them (your parents) to know about it.
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i say jus tell one of ur siblings .... knowing brown siblings it'll eventually get to ur parents.
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^That can be risky IMO. Siblings are different...and can't always be trusted in delivering sensitive information in a tactful way...that could even influence the parents' views. Reminds me of Confused Kuri's thread a couple of days back. She had confided in her younger sister...who basically stabbed her in the back...by telling MOM about the "guy" in a negative light that really turned off the mom.
Depends on how close or how much you trust your sibling....and how good they are at communicating with parents. I think that if you're serious about a person enough to the point of contemplating marriage....then it's better to try to communicate that to your parents yourself. If going through siblings....works....then it works.
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yeah true ... my siblings are awesome though ... so thats how i wld probably do it ... but then again my ammi huzoor is prety chilled too ..
ammi, abbu, mainey aap sey kabhi kuch nahi maanga…tears rolling one by one…lekin aaj mey aap sey sirf ek cheez maang raheen hoon more tearsfake chest pains*mujhey mera pyar deydo…nahin toh mein khud khushi ker loon gi…then faint
more later…
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I prefer my Mom finding out.
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First of all, you know your parents better than anyone else. You should know whether your parents would even be open to the idea. I find that parents have one of two approaches - they either expect their children to marry where they want or they're open to their children's opinion SO LONG AS the person is someone they would have introduced you to themselves.
The kids aren't usually fussed about caste, zaat, biradari - but it's a big deal to some of the older folks. Shia versus sunni is also a big deal for some parents. If from your perspective, your guy meets your parents requirements (education-wise, character-wise, personality-wise) as I mentioned earlier, ease them into the idea. Explain to the parent that you are closer to that you've met someone who you don't believe they would have any objections to (assuming that's the case). Tell them, that you're friends, but before you consider taking the friendship further, you wanted the parents to know of your mutual interest and get their agreement/blessing.
If on the other hand you know that the guy is someone they will not approve of, you'd have to be more careful how you explain your relationship to them and I've no suggestions - maybe someone else can assist you with ideas.
Kajol kinda said something like that when confronting Amrish Puri in DDLJ…for getting permission…to go vacationing with a group. Folks, why limit this to marriage…use it for anything and everything (to get a car, sleepover at friend’s house, sky’s the limit) LOL.