Re: How to break the news
In desi community it is not as black and white as just him not asking and after wedding he asks and she tells the truth , and then everybody lives happily ever after. It does not work that way in desi culture.
She has to tell him now or never ever . If he does not ask it does not mean that he does not want to know. He cannot dare to ask this kind of question.
It was not easy for her to lose her virginity to someone earlier on. He must have created a whole racket to achieve his goal.
If she initiated in first case then now after realizing that she has done something very bad now she cannot be open enough to tell this other guy that she slept with someone earlier on.
If she feels like telling this guy upfront then she should be ready for rejection. If she tells him after their wedding she should be ready for a divorce. Both of those might not happen but she should be mentally prepared.
This guy might be open and honest and nice and this and that but he might not be so open minded as a bf or a husband to accept a girl who has slept with someone with her own free will. On the flip side he might be so nice and forgive and forget she will find out only when she tells him. If she is willing to take the risk she should go ahead and tell him. But she might risk that once he finds out and breaks up with her , he might go and spread the news to prove that it is not his fault that they broke up. Again she cannot find out until she tells him.