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what? explain.
brotips are da bomb
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hahah, well, I don’t have stage fright, I like impersonal public speaking. This is about building personal connections. sigh. :hinna:
why am i so awkward?
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**talk about their interests, hobbies and any related item which they want to discuss.
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*talk about their interests, hobbies and any related item which they want to discuss.
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dislike.
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I think it's normal to feel a bit nervous in new settings. But there are cetain broad topics that everyone can talk about...and if you can't figure out what to say...you could even make a comment about the event at hand. Or start off with a question relevant to the setting. The people that you feel self-conscious about are imperfect just like you. You will have opinions about them, they will have opinions about you....so if it's judgment you're afraid of....you can't escape it. You also cannot control how they'll respond/behave/think....however, you have greater control over how you want yourself to come across.
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awkward is cute. awkward can be twisted into icebreaker. throw icewater on them while serving them thanda. thatll be awkward and u can break off conversation by profuse and heartfelt apologies
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I think it's normal to feel a bit nervous in new settings. But there are cetain broad topics that everyone can talk about...and if you can't figure out what to say...you could even make a comment about the event at hand. Or start off with a question relevant to the setting. The people that you feel self-conscious about are imperfect just like you. You will have opinions about them, they will have opinions about you....so if it's judgment you're afraid of....you can't escape it. You also cannot control how they'll respond/behave/think....however, you have greater control over how you want yourself to come across.
I agree with the bolded part (in my situations) Again, this isn't about like group settings, but more of a one-on-one deal or a very small group of people. I don't like the generic approach, because that's wannabeish and it's obvious it's not sincere and the connections I want to make are due to sincerity and fondness? argh :(
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Basically, because of my fear of being judged and misunderstood and disliked I maintain too much of a distance and what/how I really feel or think doesn't come across.
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go and read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
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Well OP...I guess you'll need a botal of something a lot stronger than Pepsi if you wanna let loosen up around people. Jus sayin. :p
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yea…OP… you get drunk and ‘loosen’ up around people.
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yea
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Basically, **because of my fear of being judged and misunderstood and disliked I maintain too much of a distance **and what/how I really feel or think doesn't come across.
Believe me, you are better off that way.
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^don't think so. not in the long run anyways. People I appreciate or see an intellectual connection with need to know how I really think.
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I always observe before opening my mouth 
It’s not really hard to be honest just talk about anything, or use one of those ‘classic’ bollywood lines - am pretty sure it will work. Rest just go with the flow. 
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Basically, because of my fear of being judged and misunderstood and disliked I maintain too much of a distance and what/how I really feel or think doesn't come across.
Don't fear being disliked. Talk to the person, and if s/he does dislike you, then it's that persons loss. I usually cut off all ties with such a person - if s/he wants to judge me, then fine - I don't care - upwards and onwards for me.
Not everyone you talk to will understand you, like you or not judge you - people do this all the time, even if it is subconsciously.
If you never talk to new people, you will never find out what they think of you.